I'm I Unrealistic.......?? What are your beliefs??

Question

I was having a discussion boy that is 23 and I’m 22, that I will ONLY have sex with a male if I and he are in a relationship. I don’t have casual sex. He said being in a relationship is nothing more then just a title. And I'm old fashion because the reality of now a days is sex is just sex. And placing a title on someone doesn’t really mean anything anymore. I guess he was saying since that’s how it is now a days I should let go of my standards of ONLY SEX if I'm in a Relationship. See he believes in friends with benefits (and I don’t) because that’s what going on in Today’s world. What do you think?

Are relationships overrated? Or just a title? Will you only have sex with your partner? Or you agree with friends with benefits? What bout commitment and love?

Answer 1

relationships are beautiful weneva u r in one with someone u care about and they care about u 2 weneva they treat u right...I think sex is for people who are jus acting off of infactuations wat u need is someone to make love to u

Answer 2

Love is a commitment, and sex and love making is for marriage(or should be done within marriage/ spouse). Many people are searching for love, but confuse love with the other 4 letter word (lust). Lust stems from selfishness, and selfishness will do whatever is necessary to fullfil what it's desire is. It's kewl to have a relationship however sex before marriage opens those inidividuals up to a lot of hurt and pain in the long run. It's like each time a person has sex with someone they end up losing a piece of themselves. Then after everyone has had a piece that person, they no longer have no idea who they are. Save what you have for your husband to be. Don't change your values because the majority of people don't have them. It's better to wait until your marriage day.

Answer 3

Relationships are the way we as humans are designed. Relationships are how humans come together and have children together and raise those children to be healthy adults and productive adults. Sex is an action to create children, it's not just something we do to have fun. This guy was saying that because he just wants to have sex without having to have a relationship. That is selfishness to the highest degree. You hold to your standards and keep away from sex for as long as you feel comfortable with and keep away from that guy. Commitment is absolutely necessary and I wish more people would wait until marriage in order to have sex. For starters, you find someone who goes around having "friends with benefits" and who contracts AIDS and you ask them if they think having sex with just anyone was worth it especially since they will die in 10 years at the nice ripe age of 30. That very same selfish self centered and ignorant attitude is why we have herpes, syphilis, AIDS and all these other diseases running around rampant killing people left and right and ruining people's lives. Being committed to someone is hard work but the rewards make even every fight worth while. I've been married for some time now and I have a family and I have been there at the friends with benefits point and I will tell you I was lucky not to have contracted any diseases myself. A girl that was my friend with benefits decided to be friends with benefits with another guy also who had AIDS and no one knew it because he didn't tell her but he knew what he had. Anyways when she started having sex with him is when I started seeing my current wife and quit having sex with her, so now she has AIDS and I've been tested two times a year ever since than just to make sure without a doubt that I didn't get it. Sex means whatever meaning you place on it. Do NOT be fooled, sex means nothing to him, do not let him put his mentality onto you. Sex obviously means something to you and since it means something to you than it has meaning for you. Who cares what society thinks? Unless you really want genital warts or herpes or to get pregnant so you can have an abortion, doesn't that sound fun? Anyways keep yourself grounded like you are and stay strong against temptation and weak minded individuals like this fool who will probably catch something and die young.

Answer 4

This is how I feel about it ...

You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.

You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.

If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.

Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.

I am a virgin. I have a boyfriend of almost a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...

Answer 5

whats the big deal with just casual sex between friends, you should give it a try... It does not mean anything bad if that's all that is wanted... just keep him as a fk buddie :) :) :)

Answer 6

I think they are overrated in my experiences.