My boyfriend and I are talking and trying to figure out if we should get engaged/married. I love him but I'm not 100% sure I should marry him. Should you be completely sure when deciding this? What if it's more like 80/20 or 70/30?
2007-01-22 04:33:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not sure, you're not sure. Period. Get premarital counseling to help you decide. Knowing your own mind is a sign of maturity- not being sure means you know something isn't right.
2007-01-22 04:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be 110% sure that you want to get married before you decide this. you say that you love him and that he loves you, but if you are having doubts then you need more time. marriage is not a game. there is no problem with being engaged for a little while. how long have you guys been together is another thing you should think about. just make sure that you know him well and that after you make this important decision that you will not find out anything later that you should have known now. other than that if you both love each other and you know this is what YOU want to do then good luck to you both.
2007-01-22 12:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get married or even engaged I think you should deff be 100% positive you are making the right decision marrying someone is supposed to be a life long thing and you dont eanna run into things if you arent ready..Maybe if you where engaged though you have the wedding set for a while away you have more time to think and wonder about things and to make sure
2007-01-22 12:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you decide to marry someone, its a very big step for the both of you! When that time comes you NEED to be 100% sure, you want to marry the person. And it sounds like you're NOT completly ready... which is normal. Just don't get yourself into something, you can't get out of, cause it'll be hard trying to cope with everything. Wait a while, if you are not sure... when you are ready to marry, you won't have to ask yourself if you are. Good Luck girl
2007-01-22 12:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before getting engaged, sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend about your and his expectations in life. Examples: Where will you live, will you have children- how many-when- will you stay home or work, Is religion important to either of you, how will you handle financial situations, do you have a support system in place (family or friends)? There are many good books with questions out there. A book I would recommend is by Susan Piver called the Hard Questions - 100 questions to ask before saying I Do.
2007-01-22 12:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by nswanson1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be around 95/5....whatever is bugging you will bug you 10 times more after you get married and I wouldn't even get engaged until you've worked all the bugs out. Some of the best advice I've been given is this: You can control/change only one person....yourself! Write down why you're hesitant. Can you talk to him about them? Are they fixable? Take your time, trust me, it'll be worth the effort.
2007-01-22 12:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by My kids mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really what engagement is all about. Just make sure if you are anything but 100%, that the engagement is a long one.
Don't rush. In fact ,its better to be 110% sure when you start making those wedding plans.
2007-01-22 12:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by MES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would have to say no...you don't have to be 100% sure you want to marry him when you get engaged, but that is what engagement is for, to make sure 100% that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.
if i knew then what i know now, i would have waited to get married, because i thought i was ready but once it happened, i realized i wasn't ready at all.
hope this helps =)
2007-01-22 12:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is a 100% sure about something unless they're a bit deluded. You should have a plan, like where you want to go in life, and know that you love the person and would do anything to be with them...but it's impossible to be 100% sure about it because problems can always present themselves...go with your intuition, and don't let yourself be pressured into it, it's better to wait than to regret it later..
2007-01-22 12:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, be completely sure. That is why the divorce rate is so high these days.....people think that they are pretty sure about it and then wonder why it didn't work out.
....Now keep in mind no one is perfect and you are going to find flaws in everyone. The trick is to find the person who has the flaws that you can live with.
Good luck!
2007-01-22 12:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is the biggest commitment you will make in your life. You have to be absolutely sure.
Think about the reasons WHY you're not 100%...
2007-01-22 12:36:38 · answer #11 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋