2007-01-22 04:27:47 · 10 answers · asked by lucky7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
drink. a lot.
2007-01-22 04:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by frigon_p 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your ordeal, we've all been there. It's a healing process. Think about the four stages of grief and that will help you along the way. 1. denial 2. anger 3. bargaining 4. acceptance. First of all, be true to yourself. Acknowledge that you are in pain and will experiences all kinds of emotions. Allow for those emotions to be there. Then find an outlet for your emotions. It should be something that you enjoy or can relate to. Examples are your religious/spiritual beliefs, journaling, listening to breakup songs, talking to someone (even a psychotherapist), crying. Know that every day is a journey to your goal of inner peace. Allow for aspects such as roadblocks to come along the way. Allow for a bad day to happen once in a while. You're only human after all. Once you allow your feelings to come out then do things for you to treat yourself well. Don't overindulge or feel pity for yourself. Also do not allow others to feel pity for you. Examples could be a weekend retreat, long vacation, spa treatments, a new outfit, etc. Or it could be something to help you grow as a person and feel good about yourself. Such as a class you've always wanted to take, making small strides in physical fitness (that is an instant mood booster) or volunteering to help others. If you like your job then make achivements to learn something new, to achieve something you put off. If you're in school make that a top priority to exceed. Keep yourself active and acknowledge the achievements you've made along the way. Finally accept what happened. You can't change the past. Learn to accept the gifts of the present and look forward to the bright future ahead of you. Unfortunately, I've had some bad breakups in the past where I felt the same way you did. However, each time I strived to achieve something on my own. In college it was boosting my GPA, then losing the weight I wanted. I had my heart broken recently and I felt so hopeless. I put all my energy into my work and learned new skills that I once avoided. I also ran a 5k at work over the holidays. It really helped me.
take care and hang in there. It's just a temporary phase.
2007-01-22 12:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the main cure. You will feel better. Trust me. But you have to do and be around positive people and activities during this time. Plan a fun trip or something with friends to cheer you up. Take a fun class in something you like. Maybe you'll meet new people that'll help you get over it. Best thing to do is tell yourself it's over, get rid of the pictures and memories, and move on.
2007-01-22 12:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy answer. Time will eventually heal you, but it's not fun waiting.
I'm in the position of dealing with a breakup. I did the breaking up; I couldn't tolerate the conditions that existed in the relationship. I am still very much in love with them, but just couldn't stay.
If you can avoid being around your ex, that will help. I constantly run into mine at the dojo - it's been brutal.
After a while, you can get to the point where you can accept that the past happened. It will still hurt, but you find you can deal with it.
For me, handling the breakup was aggravated by dishonesty and emotional abuse on the part of both of them. I was able to get past the things my ex-bf did, but had a much harder time dealing with the things my ex-gf did. Finally, after talking about it with my ex-bf, he discussed things with my ex-gf (still his gf) and she apologized to me. This helped me finally move on.
2007-01-22 12:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to me..just 4get what all had happened...4get it as u dreamt of a nightmare.....
start a new life...exploit new things...
certain things must and shud happen in life..to know what is life where it goes....u see many bifurcations..yet this is a small thing..i think a verse of robert frost's poem would give you kinda confidence....MILES I GO BEFORE I SLEEP AND MILES I GO B4 I SLEEP...yet there are much more works to be done before you meet ur eternity.......be a sport ...c'mon now....dun be that dejected...feel that he/she doesn't deserve ur love ur care ur concern....well leave the situation for divine intervention...4get abt grief and all the stages..you have lost nothing yet...its only a part of life....think this would really bring you out of the mess..buh-bye
dear
do take care...
have fun...
undergoing grief and stuff is merely a ****...dun even think of it
ricky
BEYOND IMPERFECTIONS
WALKING ANGEL..
2007-01-22 12:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to muster some strength to overcome what's in store yet. When you get to the third time it happened, you'll still grieve, but experience will have taught you to scoff the darn thing thru.
2007-01-22 12:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens when I get dumped I get a tub of ice cream. Go listen to depressing music. Watch movies and have no communication from the outside world. Then I get over it and live my life. remember that your too good for him/her.
2007-01-22 12:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Second Chance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing can heal the pain besides time and to give your mind time to forget the person who caused you so muh pain, im going thru the same thing right now and it suks
2007-01-22 12:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by baldwin28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all pains!! Look to God for strength!!!
2007-01-22 12:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hang out with your friends...find a healthy hobby..working out...and of course, time.
2007-01-22 12:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋