My brother is getting married this year...he just had an engagement party and one of his friends has a habit of groping women when he is drunk (including myself). I find this inappropriate behavior appalling and totally disrespectful, and think that many others would as well, especially if he does it at their wedding. I told my brother about it, but he is much more laid back than me, and simply said he was sorry for his friends antics. I really think he should say something to his friend! Someone should say something! right? what would you do? I didnt want to cause a scene at his engagement party and dont want to cause a scene at his wedding, but I do not, and will not tolerate this behavior! what would you do?
2007-01-22 04:16:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your brother is too accepting and is putting his guests at risk. What does his bride think? Enlist her help too!
You may just have to step up and stand up for yourself!! Make it clear to the friend, directly, that you will press assault charges if he touches you and will encourage anyone else he touches to do the same. That should be enough to scare him to good behavior.
That way you can just report him after the incident, but not make a scene at the wedding. Just make sure someone is watching him at all times to have a witness to his behavior.
2007-01-22 04:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it wedding time yet? I didn't think so. If he pulls this at the wedding quietly tell him to stop it. Why would you make a scene at your brother's wedding? Just to prove that your brother's friend is a jerk? I'm sure so many people are aware of it. But your brother likes him and isn't going to listen. Are you really going to put a mark on the most important day of your brother's life because of it? I'm sure one day he will get fed up, but today isn't that day and tomorrow probably isn't looking too good either. Let it go and deal with it, when and IF it becomes an actual problem at the wedding. Quietly and with class. No one likes a whiny drama queen.
And yes, I am getting ready to get married, and I have not one, but TWO uncles (one from each side) that match the above description and I assure you that we do not have security standing by. It is a family tradition. They are pervy. It's how it goes. We call them a cab when they get to the bridesmaids. Every weddings got one. Lucky me, I got two. You can't stress about it now, it's not even your wedding. You are wasting precious energy, I promise.
2007-01-22 05:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother won't deal with it then it's up to you to talk to the guy before the wedding. Let him know that you will not tolerate it and that you don't want to see any one else have to either. If he does it at their wedding you will find a couple of big guys to throw him out. Then follow through with what you say. Let the possible bouncers know the problem before the wedding and that you may have to call on them to discreetly bounce him out the door. It'd be better to get him out than to let him fondle women all night long, right? Also, maybe you should mention to your brother's fiance about the guy's behavior. That can't hurt.
2007-01-22 04:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, your brother should be handling this clod. But if you have the b*lls, you should get this friend while he is sober and tell him just what the consequences will be should he ever put his hands on you again. It's hard to believe in this day and age that some men still feel they can take liberties with females because they are drunk.
2007-01-22 11:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about it when the situation arises. If he tries to grope you during the wedding or reception, pull him aside and tell him is behavior is inappropriate and not kindly received. Do not make a scene.
2007-01-22 04:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should assign an usher to watch him, and warn the bartender not to serve him. This is his WEDDING, and you're his sister. There should be a double zero tolerance policy for obnoxious behavior there.
2007-01-22 04:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his friend- let him make an ars out of himself and your brother can deal with it.
I personally would bring some pepper spray and teach him a lesson if he tries to grop you!!
2007-01-22 04:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grab his ear when he is sober
2007-01-22 04:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋