everytime i tell my 9 yr old off she laughs. today she said she didnt want to live with us anymore because she cant have a chipmonk. i told her that there are children without families and homes and she laughed at that too. is this normall and how can i deal with it? ive taken her favourite things off her, sent her to her room and nothing has worked. please help.
2007-01-22 04:15:40 · 21 answers · asked by MICHAEL A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i bought up about children with no homes because she didnt want to live here and shes so ungratefull. i just said be gratefull as theres kids out there with no homes or families. if you havent got anything nice to say then dont say anything at all
2007-01-22 19:16:00 · update #1
been there done that got the t-shirt and the heartache, as you can tell your daughter is so normal its not funny, everytime you dislipline her you are giving her attention and 9yrs old that is all she wants she is also going through alot of blood changes and probably doesnt know herself what is wrong, try ignoring her when she laughs at things praise her when she gives you a cuddle or puts her plates away or folds her clothes even the smallest good thing deserves praise make a fuss of her when she does as she is told try reverse physicology ( not sure of spelling) my son once told me he was moving out as i am a single mother of 4 i have to admit i was at the end of my tither when came of with this so i packed his bags and walked him round the street for an hour askin him who he wanted to live with then took him to that person we asked them what their rules in the house were when he didnt like the answers he got he came home with me and has never been happier living here, sit your daughter down and ask her what rules she would like the family to have in the house and what dislipine should be given when the rules are broke you will be amazed at how harsh she will be plus how grown up she is,also if your like me when i take things away they go back very quick try an awards system like when she does chores she gets points when she is cheeky less points come of when she gets a certain amount and keeps them for a a day then a treat can be given like a day out on a one to one or family day or a family nite in with pizza and movie things like that, tell her love her as much as possible especially if she comes of with the phrase " i hate you" dont judge her or compare her to her siblings what she does may not be what they do or vice versa, i hope this helps remeber you are all new to each stage and its very scarey for her.. good luck
2007-01-22 21:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by SARA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely a 9 year old must realise that it's not practical to ask for a pet such as a chipmunk. Keep going with the way you tell her that some people are homeless or disadvantaged in some way. You can then add to this by telling her that if she perhaps gives her old toys or books to charity to help these people, or does some household chores, then she will be rewarded. Maybe you can come to a compromise and get her a small suitable household pet, but make sure she is willing to help look after it. Make sure you don't give her gifts for no reason, or she will come to expect them. And tell her she can have her favourite things by doing homework or tidying her room to earn them . You just have to show her that you mean it, and don't make a big deal when she laughs at things, just ignore it. Do something now, or things will only get worse as she gets older.
2007-01-22 04:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Twisty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience children are selfish, your daughter doesnt see others going without as a valid reason for not getting a chipmunk. Im no expert but just seems to be at the age where shes acting out, to see how far she can push you. Its not abnormal behaviour, however exasperating it might be for you. Try completely ignoring her when shes bad,(within reason), and praise good behaviour. She laughs when you tell her off, so you wont be giving her the satisfaction of being able to do it. Hopefully she'l soon learn that life is a lot easier if she behaves.
2007-01-22 04:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by NCbabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the fact that there are children without families and homes have to do with her? No wonder she laughed...you're bringing up stuff that doesn't pertain to her at all. She asked for a chipmonk and you bring up children without homes? Hello? I would have handed her a bag of nuts and told her if she thew them outside she'd have chipmonks...Not given her a lecture about how there are children who don't have families or homes...
2007-01-22 19:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard at this age, but it will get better, to a 9 year old not wanting to live with you as they cant get there own way is normal.
You sound to me like your a good mum and aslong as you keep doing what your doing she will turn out just fine.
When she laughs at you just dont give in follow through with what your saying, it might take a while but it will get through to her in the end.
Ignore any smart comments and tell her when she wants to act like the age she is you will listen, even when you think she dosnt listen or take you seriously, a little bit of what you say will get through to her.
Try not shout as this then just proves to her you dont know what else to do.
Lots of luck and she will be fine, in a few years you will be best of friends.
2007-01-23 00:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by hayles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her age, and it will get worse, lol ! Just be firm and consistent and be confident with her after all you are the adult and what you say goes. Children become hormonal a lot younger than our generation did and grow up much faster. What ever you do don't give in to her demands. Try to remember what you were like at that age, I know I was just like your Daughter, I knew it all, or at least I thought I did!. She will grow out of it ... I promise. Good luck!
2007-01-22 04:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 6 yr old girl can be just the same, once i spanked her & she turned round and said 'that didn't even hurt!'
I think taking things off her as punishment is a great way of disciplining but before you agree to give them back you should always explain again why you took it off her & make her apologise for the way she behaved. She'll soon get the message.
Be firm but fair. Good luck
2007-01-22 04:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by becbark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the difference between an elephant and a flea? An elephant can have fleas but a flea can't have elephants What do you give a dog with a fever? Mustard, its the best thing for a hot dog What did baby corn say to momma corn? Wheres popcorn.
2016-03-29 09:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 9 year old does not act like that. Is she an animal lover? Maybe take her to the Animal shelter and get her to do some volunteering. Sounds like she might be going through a rough stage, and sometimes they need an out...maybe this would help.
2007-01-22 05:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is completely normal, just trying to get around you. She will learn. I take my sons tv, dvds, and playstation out if his room and he has to sit on the bed and not play for half an hour. This usually lasts about 10 mins before he apologises. Then we have a chat about his behaviour and work out a punishment.
Kids - you gotta love 'em!!!
2007-01-22 04:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋