A few days ago 1 of my good friends told me tht he likes me and i like him aswel an he keeps sayin tht hes in love with me and tht he really cares about me but i just thought he was just sayin an he didnt really mean it because i know how he treats girls (he cheated on 1 of my bestfriends) and the way he talks 2 me its like he only wants me 4 sex. so i told him i wasnt interested and now he seems really upset an now im wonderin if mayb he duz really care about me an tht hes changed ?
2007-01-22 04:09:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He cares that you aren't falling for his player BS.
2007-01-22 04:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter if a creep like that cares about you? If he really cares about you, break his heart by saying no.
I am pretty sure he's looking at you like another notch on his belt because there isn't any way in the world that this boy loves a girl, you, that he doesn't know anything about. He likes the looks of you, that's it. If that is enough then go for it but know this is a pretty sleazy guy and he's just warming up, he's going to be this way for another 20 years.
If you don't believe this then, ask the girls he's been with exactly how sincere they think he is. I can't believe you would take his word over theirs.
Don't be a fool.
I have to say, since when is a guy liking a girl enough for her to say yes to him? A girl should only ever date a guy, let alone have sex with him, if SHE likes him and wants to spend time with him.
Guys like ALL girls, period. It doesn't matter what they look like although the prettier the better and the easier is best.
Walking away from this clown will give you respect from people like nothing else.
2007-01-22 12:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really really loves you, he can be with you without mentioning sex or flirting. Put him to the test, and let him know that your not comfortable with him being or acting sexual around you. If he can go a month or two like that, and you both have good times, and he doesn't act or talk about sex, then you've got a chance. But make sure he isn't out sleeping with other girls during this time, since he's cheated before to get what he wanted.
2007-01-22 12:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Khavren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try just going on a date with him. Nothing says you have to have sex with him, just let him treat you to a movie and dinner, or whatever, but keep the clothes on. If you are interested in him, then you can go out with him, but you can make him wait for sex. If he is going to cheat on you, this will be when he does, if he really likes you, he will wait until you are ready. If he can't wait, then he is only after sex.
One concern I have though, if he is getting really upset that you told him you weren't interested, he might have anger issues, and when you deny him sex, he might force you to have sex with him, or abuse you in other ways. So if you do go out with him, be careful.
2007-01-22 12:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is what you call a "Playa" ! From the outside looking in, most young women don't care iif the men lie about everything as long as they treat them like a princess!! So go have fun with hm and when he leaves you pregnant and in a year you are asking the same question, go back and ask yourself- is it him or is it me? Most men want sex and thats it- and will do anything to get it, including tugging on your heart strings!! He says the same stuff to other girls and you know it, yet you still ask the question? geesh i give up!!
2007-01-22 12:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has talked to your best friend... you did the right thing.. if he doesn't want to be your friend because you wont give him what he wants then let him go.. his lost... he will just be missing out on a great friend.. if he did it to her it is really likely that he will do it to you.. i'm not saying that ppl dont change but be practical.. talk to your friend about it.. b/c most likely he will do the same thing to you what he did to her
2007-01-22 12:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mz. Robbinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. He was probably upset because he felt he invested time in the chase and lost. If you know how he treats girls, and you don't like it, why even for a moment consider him? Even if he did in fact really care about you, it's a non-issue.
2007-01-22 12:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell, just be cool with him, Don't take him up on his advances, just keep saying you don't think he is serious. and in time, if he is really serious, he will be their for you, if not he will move on to another easy one who will fall for his line! That is why it is good to be friends with a person for a while, so you can get to know them, before you start a relationship! and then, will you experience true love!
2007-01-22 12:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Stand your ground. If he really cares about you, he won't push you into a relationship that you are not ready for.
2007-01-22 12:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by bubbabud416 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋