My BF is saying that in the future his brother will have to live with him. I love my BF and I do not want to live with another person, especially if this person that is ill. My BF says that I 'm selfish, and that I don't support his family, but I think that if I allow his brother to live with us, I'll get stuck taking care of his brother (cooking, cleaning...) while he will be concentrating on his career, MBA, gym, etc. That's why I think it's not right for him to do this to me, but at the same time I don;t want to break up with him cause I love him. His brother was living with his sister for a while (about 5 months) and I could see the burden of having him over. I don't know what to do.
2007-01-22 04:01:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When the subject of his brother coming to stay comes up again, ask him who he will hire to care for the brother>??? and if he says anything about you doing it, ask him how much he is going to pay you?. then if he says something like he provides the roof and food and blah blah blah, it is time to leave the relationship cause he is not into it. You need to be working full time and not at home then he can not say well your here all the time why can you not take of him??? and if you already are busy with classes or work or both then he is a selfish *** and you could do better.
2007-01-22 04:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will agree to this if he stays home and takes care of his brother. And he better have enough money saved back to pay the bills while he gives his brother all this great care. For him to not take care of his brother and pay the bills and expect someone else to do this for him would classify him as being selfish
2007-01-22 04:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
schizophrenic people are hard to live with most of the time. this could definitely damper your lifestyle. talk further with your boyfriend about it. remember that it is not your boyfriends brothers fault that he has this condition. if indeed that he does come to live with you, make sure your boyfriend understands that you don't wish to have to wait on his brother hand and foot. also get with his sister and really talk to her about how his brother is. this may also help you with the way you handle this person. remember, you have a life too. do not compromise that. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-01-22 04:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say no, while I was in counseling once with an MD/psychiatrist, she said it is nearly impossible to live with a schizophrenic person, she didn't say impossible, but it takes great knowledge and advice and all. You might want to check with some professionals and all.
2007-01-22 04:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what--I don't mean to be hateful, but his brother comes first, not you. You're mad and jealous that your boyfriend will be giving someone else his attention. What if YOU were the one who was ill? AND, if it's such a turn off to you, why don't you leave? It's not like there's a commitment involved like a marriage. Just go!
2007-01-22 04:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not going to be easy, but if he takes his medicine as he should, their should not be a problem. you will be surprise the people is this world who are schizophrenic, but it would be easy if he takes his med's by injection. That way you will not have to worry if he has had his med's every day, where by taking the shot he, only gets that once a month. I hope every thing works out for you!
2007-01-22 04:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't you dont want to get to tied up with things that will cause u much stress in ur life... it shouldnt be your job to do all this if you want to live a happy healthy relationship i advise you to start out without all the pressure and things that will slow you down
2007-01-22 04:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ayyy631 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt but if i had to i would lock my door at night
2007-01-22 04:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your right
say (BIG NOOOOOO)
2007-01-22 04:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by huntush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋