I met a bunch of my boyfriend's friends at a bar this weekend for the first time, and this one girl was nice enough to give us a ride home. Here's the thing - I sent her a quick note to tell her it was great to meet her and to thank her for the ride via MySpace because she's one of his MySpace friends. She has a "thing" for my boyfriend, and I know it was difficult for her to see that we're together, yet she was so nice to have given us a ride in spite of her feelings. Did I do the right thing here?
2007-01-22 03:55:34 · 28 answers · asked by Last Call 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that was nice of you. She's the outsider, romantically speaking, it's her responsibility to maintain a respectable emotional distance, otherwise she's putting herself in line for unnecessary heartache.
Good of you to be aware of her feelings, you can be cordial without flaunting the fact that you have what she desires. If she wants to be friends with you, be cautious and deeply consider if you can, at this time, trust her (wink).
2007-01-22 04:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always a good thing to thank people for doing nice things for you. It shows that you aren't a jerk and don't take people for granted. However, you probably should have written a letter or something instead of an impersonal myspace note.
2007-01-22 11:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tom S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well ... telling her that it was nice to meet her (especially if it actually was
nice to meet her) is a cool thing to do.
The issue here is that you got her information via myspace affiliation.
It might creep him and/or her out. I guess my attitude here is simple:
We all know how myspace works by now. If you don't want your
information out there, don't use Myspace!
2007-01-22 11:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it was a smart thing to do. If you know she has a "thing" for your boyfriend then it's a good idea to be nice so you can keep an eye on her. You know the saying "Keep your friends close, Keep your enemies closer". You never know you guys might end up being friends once she gets over her crush on your boyfriend.
2007-01-22 12:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by mami of 4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, she played you. She gave you a ride home and all the while trying to find your weak spots to get to the man she has a thing for. Why care if its difficult for her, apparently it isn't she gave both of you a ride home, and now she has ammo to use to get your boyfriend to herself. She has you where she wants you.
2007-01-22 12:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you definetly did in my opinion. You were not rude to her even though you know she likes your boyfriend. That was really kind of you. You could have been all ignorant and stuff to her, but you werent. You did the right thing.
2007-01-22 12:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing by telling her thank you instead of being rude to her after she kept it cool with you and she didn't disrespect you.
2007-01-22 12:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you didnt do the wrong thing, theres nothing wrong with a thank you, but how do you know this girl has a thing for man? Are you just jealous that he has a friend thats a girl?
2007-01-22 11:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That was a nice thing to do, more than I would do I wouldnt of spoke to her at all unless you're going for the motto- keep your friends close and your enemies closer!
2007-01-22 11:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, by all means you did. If she didn't have a thing for your man you would have thanked her. She was being a decent person. She deserved a thank you..
2007-01-22 11:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋