I've been with my boyfriend now for 10 months. There is this girl that he came pretty close to hooking up with who lives in another state pretty far off from where he and I live. They were head over heals for each other. They met in real life once almost 2 years ago. However he still talks to her online every day and they flirt all the time even though she is (unhappily) married and he is with me. I brought it up to both of them but it hasn't changed. They still flirt a lot. I told him that I don't talk that way with any of my guy friends because I think it's wrong since he is my bf and I respect him. Do other people have bf's who flirt with girls online? Am I wrong for being upset about this? What should I do to stop it? I know they are friends, so I don't want to say "Stop talking to her"...
2007-01-22 03:38:59 · 11 answers · asked by Jensies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this bothers you, then you have a right to tell him, if he does not stop, it is over between the two of you, it is either her or you. Ask him why can't he talk to you? say I am here for you. and that you have a problem, with the two of them talking every day. and if he can't stop talking to her, then that shows that you are not that important to him. and it would be best for you, to find a friend, who wants only you!
2007-01-22 03:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
were those emails u found been sent when u two had broken up? because if so surely that's alright? I agree with the others that he doesn't talk to u with respect. But if he just talk to girls online about everyday stuff isn't that the same as talking to his female friends? Unless theres a change in his behavior i wouldnt really worry about it. i think that maybe u should tell him how u really feel about it though if it does upset u that much. I hope it works out for u in the end :) x
2016-05-24 17:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been going through the same thing, only my b/f still talks online to pretty much all of his ex's. I don't know what they talk about, I know he wanted to plan a day with his ex, her kids, him and his kids, while we are going out, and even wanted to barbecue with his other ex and her bf. He has no "male" friends, only female x's. I think it is not normal, but it feeds their "egos" They need that constant female attention from anyone who will give it to them. He insists its not disrespectful, but honey it is. How would your man like it if the situation was reversed? They don't like it! Its been hell, and trying to get him to understand my feelings, without him saying "oh you're jealous and insecure" which I'm sure your bf has thought or said too.
Well heres my thoughts, in essence, keep your guy friends, he has his "girl" friends, it will help you feel better and as long as theres nothing shady or disrespectful going on, it will even things up a bit! Even online, its considered flirting, they will not admit it, but it is and its all feeding his ego. Feed your own, and keep things plutonic on your end, and that way you will not keep thinking about what he is doing, but you do need to tell him that its wrong and put the shoe on the other foot
2007-01-22 03:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upset..your boyfriend has no right to flirt with any girls weather it's online over the phone or in person either way it's disrespectful to you and if he cant give up an online friend who he only met once in real life for his girlfriend who he has been with for ten months then he's being a jerk you should come first over an online friend you should tell him to stop talking to her ask him how he would like it if you flirted with other guys...if he cant respect you then you should leave him my bf would never talk to another girl nevermind flirt with her he knows i wouldnt stand for that and you need your bf to see niether will you ~good luck~
2007-01-22 03:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be concerned about your boyfriend especiall if he is doing that could initially ruin the the relationship. He should however just be friends with her and remember his commitment to you, it seems that she is married and not happy but she going the wrong about getting happiness. If her husbands finds out what she is up to there is a chance he will be upset and want a divorce if he figures it can't be fixed. This is a sticky situation that could get stickier, your boyfriend needs to consider what might happen if he husband does find out so while can needs to bring it down to a friendship level. It is ok for them to be friends but he knows there can't be much more between them and so he knows there is nothing that he can do about it. Breaking the affair tie will both do them good in the long run will help tremedously. Just be civil when you talk things through and hope he understands your position in it.
2007-01-22 03:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe hes always chatting to this girl and youve sat back and taken it for 10 months.
Shes in an unhappy marriage and they were both head over heels for eachother. They obviousely get on well and flirt with eachother constantly when theyre on the net....I take that as a BAD SIGN!
He should be focussing on you, not his internet friend. I would be realy p****d if i were in your situation.
You need to lay the cards on the table with him and if he refuses to stop talking to her then dump him and tell him hes free to talk to her 24/7 from now on!...He sounds like a loser!! (sorry, if youre offended by my brash comments but im serious).
2007-01-22 03:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Flower Power 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to tell him to stop talking to her, after all hes not just "talking" is he, hes flirting with her. If he decides his relationship with her is more important to him than yours then I would move on to someone who has a little more respect for you. Believe me he is not worth your time! Good Luck!
2007-01-22 03:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by whompin4me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Observe if he gets hot for you after talking to her that could be a good side effect of this innocent past time. If he seems distant or want to reject you after talking to her then it's not good for you.
With men try to be as pragmatic as you possible can.
2007-01-22 03:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Surprise him by having her over and the two of you be naked in his bed when he comes home from work. Take what he wants for yourself, dont let him join in either. Make him suffer! LOL
2007-01-22 03:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
find yourself a guy friend to flirt with.
2007-01-22 03:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋