I'm dating this guy, we been going out for three months now, we had no problems in the last three months, but now he wants me to give up my viginity to him and i am not ready, so we having a lot of issus becuz of that. i don't know what to do. i like him, but i'm not ready.
2007-01-22 03:38:40 · 13 answers · asked by KAY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy isn't patient enough to wait.....then he doesn't deserve you. It's up to you if you're willing to give it up to the person that you know care about you and if it'll be worth it. Plus....think about...if you'll regret...there's NOTHING you can do about it once it's over and done with. Wait until the right person to come along, the right time, and the right moment. Once you've given up your virginity you can't take it back. I gave mine up when I was ready and my "boo" patiently waited. Any man that forces you to lose it is no good. They're one of those hit and leave type of boys. You don't want that. Even if you don't stay with the person you lost your virginity to...at least you'll look back and know that you didn't regret it. If you gave your virginity to him......you'll say to yourself you wish you would have waited longer. So leave him and find somebody else that's worth it or somebody who'll wait.
2007-01-22 03:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question sweetheart. Your nor ready. He is not worth it no matter how much you like him. If he cant respect you he doesnt deserve you. Im not saying leave him, but let him know where you stand and tell him if he really cares he will wait. bottom line. I understand where you are coming from. I was in the same situation, except when I told him I wasnt ready he said alright, then a couple days later he came over to my place and said he wanted to talk. He didnt do much talking, he forced himself on me. That is really hard for me to say. Not every man is like this. Just a few. All you need to do is what feels right, and be careful, please.
2007-01-22 11:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix13's new account 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word u said is "you're not ready" so thats what it has to be. If he can't respect that then he's not that special guy that should have your virginity. It's to precious and too special to just give it up so soon. It takes patience and time to meet that special someone. A lot of guys you will meet will seem like "the One" at first but soon you will see their true motives. I lost mine at 14 and i regretted the moment we finished and it wasn't what i expected it too be it was depressing then he told all his friends i thought he cared about me and it was just a game to him. First you should enjoy getting to know one another , he should be your soul mate and that could take years to find out. Also you have to ask yourself are you worth the wait? I think you are.
2007-01-22 11:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by victoriousdede1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, don't do it. It may seem like he is perfect for you now, but the perfet guy wouldn't pressure you to do something that you are uncomfortable with. But, if it is something that you think you are ready for, thats your choice to make, but be smart about it, use protection. Seventeen Magazine has a quiz online that can help you determine if you are emotionally ready for sex. Here is the link:
http://quiz.ivillage.com/seventeen/tests/20060928_sex.htm?iv_arrivalSA=1&iv_cobrandRef=0&iv_arrival_freq=2
2007-01-22 11:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never have sex with anyone if you do not feel ready for it.
If 'boo' cares about you - not what he can get from you - he will back off. If impressing his friends is more important than impressing his girl, cut him loose.
Wait, Wait, Wait. Much fewer people regret waiting than giving it.
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-01-22 11:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is not worth it if he cant accept the fact that you're not ready then he isnt in it for love he just wants to get in your pants and as harsh and mean as that sounds its the truth, sorry. but every guy should be able to accept no for an answer. No one should put up this much of a fight if they love the person.
2007-01-22 11:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Juhboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it up!!! If he REALLY loves you, he can wait until you are ready to give it up, and he will not have to ask you for it.
2007-01-22 11:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up your virginity for him. I know it sounds cliche, but if the guy won't stay with you because you won't sleep with him, then he doesn't really care about you. I know it will hurt to dump him, but it will hurt much more if he dumps you after you sleep with him. Save yourself for someone who respects you.
2007-01-22 11:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it if you are not ready...you will regret it if you two break up...you may even regret it if you don't break up...trust me...i gave in...please make my mistake worth making by helping you make the decision to wait until you are ready!
2007-01-22 11:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, anybody who calls there boyfriend "boo" aint ready for sex yet. Wait until you are at least 13
2007-01-22 11:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋