Im moving in with my boyfriend in two weeks....?

Question

My boyfriend and I are getting an house in two weeks. A nice little 2 bed 1 bath home with a garden and everything. Im 23 Hes 27. Plan on getting engaged by December.
What should I expect moving in with him? Whats it like?
I lived with female roomies since i was 18 so Im not new to buying my own food and making dinner and doing laundry.

What you think?

Answer 1

well alot of compromising and communication and you 2 would be allright****

Answer 2

Someone once told me if you can live with a person, stay sane, and still adore them then you'll be all right. My boyfriend and I moved in together four months after meeting and while everyone said we were crazy, four years later I still believe it was the best decision we've made in our relationship.
So from my experiences, be prepared to share everything. The bed, the couch, the food, the bathroom, the closet... your lives essentially. Be prepared for hilarious moments like screwing up a dinner and watching him wince through it all while saying, "This is so good." Be prepared for parents stopping by, out of the blue calls, and advice on how to do such and such. Be prepared to get irked at the slightest and smallest mannerisms of his... how he may leave the cap of the toothpaste off, wet towels on the floor, cabinet doors left open, etc. But most of all... be prepared to learn about each other and discover sides of one another you most likely hadn't seen before.

It really is a wonderful experience if you just hang in there. Take everyday together and cherish it... because first house memories are always ones that stick. A few years down the road you'll both look back and have tons of, "Do you remember when..." stories.

OH YES... I ALMOST FORGOT. On moving day, BRING A CAMERA. I wish I would have had a camera back then to capture those memories.

Answer 3

Aw, yea. Get ready. It's a trip. There will be all sorts of wonderful things you'll find out about said beau. Some of them will be endearing, others will drive you nuts. For a while, you'll both be on your best date behavior. Then, you'll start loosening up around one another more and more, finding your comfort zone and enjoying the shared living space.

It's so different that roommates because of the emotional and physical investment you've placed in the relationship. So, don't expect it to be anything like rooming with friends or strangers or even like living back with the folks.

Best advice I've ever gotten about this? Do not let the lines of communication break down! If something happens you don't like, don't be afraid to bring it up and talk it through over wine or whatnot. The flip-side: if he does something really considerate or otherwise wonderful, let him know you appreciated it and try to reciprocate somehow. For example, if you know he hates sweeping the garage, but it keeps filling with leaves, do it for him when you have a day off and he's working. He'll return the favor, for sure.

Answer 4

OMG! Prepare yourself honey! Living with a man is no picnic, unless your guy is Mr. Clean! I love my man and we have been living together for over 5 yrs now. When I first moved in with him, I called my mom like a week later and asked her " Ma, why the heck didn't you tell me what it was like living with a man?" She just laughed. I'm not saying its horrible and dont do it...not at all...Im just saying prepare yourself. I am a clean freak! I can not go to bed with dishes in the sink or when I wake up their will be hell to pay, I dunno, maybe Im just weird but when I wake up and see the sink full of dishes, it just puts me in such a bad mood...this doesn't seem to bother my boyfriend...in fact...I think he likes seeing the dishes pill up, lol. Men don't wash dishes! I went on strike once and it got so bad I had to give in and wash the dishes. (Mostly, what men do is vaccum and take the garbage out and mow the lawn, if you have one.) Not all men are pigs but about 90% of them are. But other than the being a pig part, it's nice. Depending on how your relationship is now, it can either make or break your relationship. I believe everyone should live together before marriage. Living together allows you to REALLY get to know the person...including all their disgusting habits. When you are dating you never really see the "ugly" parts. My boy friend almost had a heart attack the first time he saw me walking around with Nair on my upper lip. What...did he think I magically became beautiful??? LOL But overall if your truly in love then you should be fine. You must make sure that you both have seperate lives because being around someone 24/7 can become rather annoying. And also, you may want to establish a 'girls night out' and a 'guys night out', that way you don't lose yourself in a relationship and end up losing all your friends. Me and my bf, we hardly do it now but usually he'll have a Thursday night, when he will go out with the boys, mines on Saturdays, when I go out with the girls. Just trust each other and give each other breathing room and you should be fine.

Answer 5

Living together is a huge adjustment. Many marriages don't survive...even less boyfriend/girlfriend arrangements. Please make sure that you are protected financially in this house arrangement and if things turn bad, remember to at least have a definite engagement before co-mixing money and signing leases and mortgages together. It's a recipe for disaster.

I really DO hope it works for you, but statistics say it won't...so please protect yourself. By the way, why wait another year to be engaged? If it's that you want a bigger ring, get the small one now. At least you'll have something. You can upgrade later if that is REALLY important to you.

Answer 6

You never know a person until you live with them. Initially, it seems very natural to be together. The business of running a household is a joint effort of mutually agreed to tasks. Also, men and women too have particular forms of lifestyle that are frowned upon by each gender. Does he think that alas someone to pick up my socks, wash my clothes, buy me food, and make my meals? Do you think that this is all that there is?

Answer 7

I think the 2 of you should sit down and talk about what you expect from each other as you live together. It can be fun as long as you're both on the same page, are ready to compromise on some things and can give.

Answer 8

Kissing isn't too a procedures, as long as you probably did no longer enable him on your pants or so forth i think of that's ok. yet you will possibly be able to desire to have come off as "hassle-free" because of the fact of that remark he made. perhaps in basic terms take it a touch slower, like do no longer do something extra suitable for a month or 2 months. until eventually you're a hundred% particular you're waiting. Then there will be no ought to ask in this internet site haha :) xx

Answer 9

I just recently moved in with my boyfriend of 2 years, 6 months ago. Everything is going great!!! I would suggest before you move in together to sit down and have a serious talk about what you both expect. For instance, bless his heart, my boyfriend cannot load a dishwasher to save his life correctly, so we compromise......he takes out the trash, I do the dishes, he vaccums the house, I dust...etc. Its not just chores though, its more fun now b/c he makes me sandwiches in the mornings for my lunch and I leave him notes to find later on while I'm at work!


Just remember that most things you argue about are stupid and not worth arguing about at all... so when you feel yourself raising your voice, take a minute to calm down and think about it rationally. ALSO.... before you move in, talk about who is responsible for certain groceries!! My b/f and I have separate checking accounts..and thats what works for us.

Answer 10

I think you're really going to need to communicate. And you're going to realize that it's not always easy... but if something bothers you... and you don't say anything about it... it's just going to get worse.

And you don't want to seem like a nagging b*tch either.

Living together's a nice juggling act but once you get the hang of it, and if you deal with eachother with respect and honesty, you'll be fine.

Answer 11

You should expect that you never will get engaged, he'll just use you for sex and housekeeping, cheat on you, then leave you with the house payments and a kid or two. What's his motivation for doing otherwise? Sucker.

Get the stars out of your innocent little eyes, then get a gold ring on your finger and a legal commitment first, kiddo. Don't you ever read the advice columns?