this boy has a girlfriennd he dont like me but i like him when he ask me for things like money i alway give it to him and the reason i do that is because i think it will make him like me he dont call me well he only call me when he want sex or money but should i get an abortion and not tell him but i dont have the gut to tell him because im scared!!!!!
2007-01-22 03:28:16 · 15 answers · asked by pretty thing06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
id say if you plan to get an abortion either way, then no, dont tell him. then dont talk to him again. ever.
2007-01-22 03:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first. If your period is late, you should buy a pregnancy test or go to planned parenthood. Find out for sure. If you are, you can go from there, but don't let your feelings about this boy affect your decision. If you want to have the baby, don't get an abortion just because you don't want him to know. I think you are already aware that you have been this guys doormat and that he has no respect for you. It is time to stop giving him anything when you get nothing in return. Respect yourself by cutting him off. You don't owe him any explanation. Just stop taking his calls. Tell him you're done with him and hang up. He sounds like a real jerk. If he's cheating on his girlfriend, he doesn't really respect her either. You can't buy his love, but why would you want a guy like this anyway? He would cheat on you too. Make your decisions for yourself and your baby, not for him.
2007-01-22 11:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to cut all ties with this jerk. Stop giving him money and sex. You deserve to be treated better. As for the abortion, you have to make sure that the choices you make are not based on your feelings for this guy, ie. revenge, or trying to get him to like you. If you want the baby then you should keep it, even if it means raising it as a single mother. This is a very serious decision, and only you will be able to decide what is best for you and the baby. Take time to think it over so you don't have any regrets in the future. I wish you luck.
2007-01-22 11:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope this experience is a wakeup call for you.
I can't give you advice on whether or not to have an abortion. It would go against my own personal ethics and morals to tell you how to handle your pregnancy either way. That's not something I believe anybody but you (and the father) have a right to decide. (I'm Pro-Mind-Your-F*cking-Business)
But seriously here, no amount of giving yourself to someone is going to MAKE them love you if they don't.
And a guy who DID care about you would never use and exploit you this way. You need to make a conscious decision to lead a better life, and surround yourself with better people. Otherwise you're probably going to live a short, miserable life... full of people who use you for whatever you're worth to them, and then kick you to the curb.
I don't think that's what you want. And you need to realize that you deserve better.
2007-01-22 11:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man does not have any respect for you and just uses you for his own needs. Despite this fact, This baby is just as much his as yours. He needs to be a part of the decision. Most likely he will ignore you or deny it and wont be part of the process. But then you at least told the truth and gave him the opportunity and can feel good about that.
As for an abortion, being adopted, I hope you give this child an opportunity to be loved by people that want to love a child more than anything and cannot produce their own. I wish you well in your decision.
2007-01-22 11:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop enabling him to use you! He doesn't like you and at this rate he never will. I suggest you get an abortion because that baby's daddy is never gonna be around for it. And goddamnit already, save your money for some new shoes instead of that clown!
2007-01-22 11:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you for sex and money,If you think you are pregnant you must do a test to find out for sure,If you are pregnant you have to decide weather you want to keep the child have it adopted or have a termination.
But first you have to do a test..
2007-01-22 11:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has got to be the most ridiculous thing I've ever read... first off, LOL at you for allowing yourself to become his Sugar Mama, and second off, I feel sorry for your baby if you are pregnant... if you only got pregnant to make him want you, then you are a sad woman, if you didn't want to get pregnant, there are many forms of birth control out there, next time, be protected.. grow up!
2007-01-22 11:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would get over him and as far as the aborting thing, that depends on your own beliefs, i would talk to your pastor(and i'm not a churchie person!trust me!), or mother! don't be scaired to tell anyone, but you have to do what you feel in your heart! TALK TO YOU MOM!!!
2007-01-22 11:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude sounds like a total looser!
And you should have more self respect, believe in your self and dont let anyone do that to you.
2007-01-22 11:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by TP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋