have you "secretly" loved someone else ?

Question

Hello, world. I am sure that we have all been in a situation simillar to this.
And that is being indirectly attracted to a person when you first see them.
You fight the thought of it for a long time. You avoid talking to them. You
hate the words that come out of there mouths, but yet you listen. Then the
ice breaks. You start staring at that man or woman. And you see how
beautiful they are. Your eyes accidently meet. You look away. You then
begin to talk, barely. Then you talk daily, and converstions become deep.
Then you can't stop talking to that sould, when you realize, that you have so
much in common, it is scary. Then you know right then and there, that you
desire this being so much, you would do absolutely anything for them. But
without letting the world know. Sometimes you smile, and their words are
the only words, that you wanna hear. Cause when they talk, you listen.
And when you are next to them, there is a compassionate feeling. Best
answer wins

Answer 1

everyone has, haven't they? even if not totally madly, everyone has felt attraction to someone, even if it's the slightest. can't be bothered to write anything profound at the mo, so i'm not exactly expecting those ten points...oh well. peace and love.

Answer 2

I secretly loved some one for over 10 years. During those years I had a relationship with someone else and had 2 children, after we seperated. I found myself contacting him and we met up and started having a relationship. After a couple of months things didint seem right and then I dicovered he was married and had been for several years. I refused to see him once I found this out.
My advice is if your attracted to someone act on it,don't fear rejection, if it doesnt work out at least you wont be wondering and asking yourself what if!!!!

Answer 3

Yes, but only after I had fell out of love with the person I was with. I fell for a guy who knew my circumstances with my then husband. He would hug me, tell me to be brave, make me laugh and smile, he comforted me, and made his presence known if he was around when my soon to be ex hubby was around. I found the strentgh to leave him for all the right reasons, but he also helped me realise I no longer loved my husband. I'm not with the other guy now, but he helped me see sense.

Answer 4

I am up to but the ice breaks, that hasn't happened yet. All of the above has happened, this person is my lobster and the sooner they realise the sooner stuff can happen until then........

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Answer 5

Yep, in the same situation right now........never believed in 'soulmates' and all that jazz, but now...
It's like finding 'my other half', it's like looking in a mirror and watching and hearing my own thoughts.
I feel like I must be the only person in the world that has this connection with him. We are like the same person, just seperate bodies. It's crazy, crazy love.

Answer 6

i have done all of dat exept that i find all the common things---->i loved her without telling anyone but then i realised she aint right for me.......: (

Answer 7

dont know answer, but i love the feeling of being in love,
or is it infatuation?

Answer 8

I worked in a building with offices glassed in that were all small companys, The office across the hall had Ugly Betty type girl Friday, she was not ugly but not Model mode either.
In a few months I was Hoping to see her every day and to ride in the "L" with her was heaven to me.She wouldn't look at me and ignored me when I spoke.
I noticed her at her desk doing Macrama Crafts on her breaks so I learned to do it in about two weeks and showed it to her thru the glass of the offices and she ignored it with a span of hands like " I don't care" then lipsynced " I am GAY"
In two months I stonewalled the glass with latticework Macrame so as not to see her at all
,She had moved her Tablue Desk facing the window and knees nearly touching the glass.
Then I saw her sit at her desk in a shirt length jumper and noticed no panties( or a buried thong) that left her wide open in the most unlady like manner
. It had been more than a year and 10 months I had been involved to the point of celibacy and no intrest in dating,then 8 months hating her. As a lizboButchdyke But now it was my erection doing the thinking
Her hair was so long she sit on it,, Her Clog shoes announced each step into the hall way and her frown was always aimed at me. BUT I forgrd ahead to the "L" and met her alone at the buttons. She ask what floor and punched the button.
I spoke"I like the blue jumper" she grinned
"Bout time you said something then I was getting sun burn on my clit trying to show you I wanted to be noticed"
I dropped my Bc and cellfon to slap my self V8 on the forehead
She tore off a laugh that shreeked like a banshela and put her hand in mine to stand facing the opening Door. I went with her without words to the grocery then the drug store. "Do you have to return to CUBES? I just shook my head as she went into a Greystone and up the lobby steps to enter a large room divided by many angled japaned screens and Gold Circled step thru circles with a "ROOM" pattern in each area.
we stopped in her bed area long enough to kiss a few long toe ticklers and disrobe with slow intense movements. The next morning we woke to Saturday with a hug and kiss then Breakfast
and a Run to my place to get my Cat and Fish . Speaking only to say Yes -No or one word directions.Always her Frown on her face.
I learned she had been Beaten up as a preteen Repeatedly raped and left for several days without food or water. It had Been 10 years of surgery-Abortion-skin grafts "the frown" and vocal cord re-alignments This happened TWICE before she was 14 by her own blood Father( now in Prison for another crime) He only got 5yrs for her problem and serevd 18 months. Coitus was not a pleasure for her but everything else was GREAT. Gay was no problem to her or I ,because we were in love,
She opened her mouth to speak ,often to have it squeek off to nothing but stiff lip movements.Sunday we went out to Her Moms, hand in hand up a country lane to be greeted with warm imbrace and a long afternoon NAP in the barn. Then back to the JOBs but with gusto this time.
Next Sunday we went back to Moms to find her serious and Angry to see us . " You two are going to Quit Now"
Why??. "You are Full cousins" It was My father== He had a Bro that came back from NAM as a Veggie Vet to a Physc Prison. He was Electro Cured (unknown to us) and released back into the World where he knocked up two sisters in this farm house before going back to Physco-can Then he came back 11 yrs later to pillage his Daughters and non-Wives. My lovly Betty was my own blood. A thousand miles from Home, Chance in a zillion?? We chose to stay together and Families are all united behind us. She still shoots me a beaver across the glass hallway sometimes 15 years(two kids) later..But "our secret lives" are not known to the rest of the world, Sometimes we triple up with her other cousin Colieen to give her the much needed Physical attention she needs to keep her Job as a High School Administrator

Answer 9

hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back

Answer 10

yes in a manner that you explained.