My Boyfriend is serving in the war in Iraq, how can I make things better when he comes home in October?

Answer 1

I am really excited that you are looking forward to October when you soldier comes home! I know that is an exciting time... but for starters... focus on the next 9 months... there are several things you can do while he is overseas to make him feel special...

1- write letters - and tell him about what is going on here (not to make him homesick - but so he feels like he is not being left out)

2 - Send care packages of his favorite foods... small things you know he likes... books.... hand held video games... etc

3 - Send PICTURES / CD's YOU MAKE (MIXES)

4 - Anything special you can think he would like!

Finally, the next 9 months or so passes and your soldier returns...
NOW... as excited as you both will be to see each other - remember there IS an adjustment period. You have just spent over a year apart and you have BOTH become extremely self-reliant. You will need space... and realize there will be things that he will do that will begin to drive you nuts.

For example: For the last year (or so) you have picked up the mail, come in opened it immediately, and paid the bills and gotten them back in the mail before even taking your coat off - Now ... your soldier now comes in and drops everything on the kitchen table.. and gets to it in a day or 2 (if your lucky - seeing as for the past year everything had a deadline of get here IMMEDIATELY).... I know that it sounds like it is "no big deal" but when your patterns change - it CAN begin to bother you!

As for what you can do SPECIAL - I would - get all of his favorite foods.. movies... friends... to get together for a big party! NOT THE DAY HE GETS HOME!

You can also.... Make a memory book of things that happened while he was away - it can include ANYTHING - politics, social events, his favorite singer put out a new album... kind of like the cards you see with a specific date and all of the prices of things on them... it would be nice to look back at all of the things that happened over the year he served in Iraq!

Good luck and thanks for serving out country!

Answer 2

So in essence what your saying is that the Iraqi people and government should be thankful that we invaded their country. Yes we are spending billions of dollars and losing many lives due to the war there. But it was we that invaded them. There turned out to be no WMD's, and what of the Iraqi women that we were going to liberate and give freedom to? They are now being turned into suicide bombers. Iraq had nothing to do with 9/11. We are now worried about insurgents that mean to do us harm in the country. When by definition we invaded a sovereign nation with the intent of changing the recognized form of government there. That would make us the insurgents. Now we worry that the new insurgents will topple the puppet government we installed. How ironic. You want to complain to the powers that be, that we Americans have had enough? Send an e-mail to ol' Georgie boy. I did. Still waiting for a reply though.

Answer 3

He will need love, support, entertainment, affection.

It will help if you offer him choices and if you offer to do the chores on the first few days.

It was a moving experience that will always stay with him, and he will be talking about it in years to come, so don't speak to him like he is the army, speak to him like he is an individual.

Don't question him about Iraq - he will say all that is interesting in due course, so why haste. Let him put the whole thing behind him first.

Answer 4

Be patient with him as he will not be the same person in many ways. Be understanding of this. Let him know that you love him. Over look some things if he gets mad and don't argue with him if it can be helped. Don't ask questions as to what he did . He will tell you what he wants you to know. Let him know that you are proud of him as I am sure you are .If he just sits quiet and doesn't talk just ask if everything is O K and if says yes then let it go. If he speaks of the war just listen.Let him know that what ever he tells you stays with you. You don't tell your mom dad or best friend .If he wants them to know he will tell them.Get some time a lone with him as soon as you can.If he says he doesn't want to go out after he told you he would don't get mad . Be understanding. If he says he doesn't want to see you some night that he just wants to be alone it not because he doesn't love you.In other words give him time and space to adjust slowly and all will be fine.
This is from someone who has been to war.
Good luck Sweetie and I will pray for his safe return.

Answer 5

You'll need to give him space when he needs it, yet still show him how much you love him and missed him. He's been thru alot over there. One way is to keep things exactly as he remembers it. It helps with the transition period of coming back home if there arent too many changes to take in at once. Let him set the pace on everything, and NEVER hand him anything with your left hand.

Answer 6

hiya mines due back in june and we have been through this for years ... personally i try not to make a major fuss as he needs time to adjust and i make him feel special by cooking .. i also buy things for him whilst he is away and i let him know i am always there if he ever wants to talk.. which he doesnt ... it takes a little while for him to adjust give him time and make allowances for little spats keep smiling and tell him you love him oh and glam yourself up for when he walks through the door

Answer 7

Hug him, Love Him and re assure him his sacrifice is important...Tell him the American People Thank Him.....

Answer 8

vote democrat

Answer 9

Get tested for STD's together. This will be the best trip you ever took together.

Answer 10

Expect some domestic violence. Sign him up for therapy and lots of sex!