Is spanking Wrong Or Right?

Question

My Senior research paper involves whether its right or wrong to spank your kids? I would spank my kids(if I had any) only because my mother and father spanked me and I know that I was a handful growing up. Now I am responsible enough to make my own desicions and my mother and father trust me. I hope yall can give me an open minded response. Thanks

Answer 1

i find it interesting that we spank our little ones when they are defenseless yet as they get older and are able to defend themselves we stop spanking......

Answer 2

Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior. In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked. The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught.

Spanking also sends the wrong message to children. Spanking communicates that hitting is an acceptable way to solve problems, and that it is all right for a big person to strike a smaller one. In addition, when children are spanked, they may know that they have done something wrong, but in many cases, they are too young to understand the lesson. It is a very difficult message for any adult or child to understand: "I hurt you because I don't want you hurt."

Finally, when spanking is the primary discipline method used, it may have some potentially harmful long-term effects such as increasing the chances of misbehavior, aggression, violent or criminal behavior; impaired learning; and depression.

The question of whether or not parents should spank their children is not easy to answer. However, spanking is only one of the factors that needs to be considered in the overall discipline process. In deciding how to discipline their children, parents should first ask, "what do I want to accomplish?" If the answer is "teach my children how to make good choices on their own," spanking may not be an issue.

Answer 3

Well I can answer this question from both prospectives. I was spanked quite often as a child and I spank my own children. Spanking is an effective form of discipline when used correctly. I do not resent my parents, and it didn't make me afraid of them because I usually had it coming. I normally only spank after lesser methods have been tried or if the child does something dangerous.

Answer 4

There is a difference between spanking, and abuse. Today lots of people think spanking IS abuse-THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE PEOPLE!- I have 5 kids, and yes I spank them when they act up or are behaving badly. I use other forms of punishment as well, such as time outs or making them go to bed. But as long as you don't go over board, I think a good spanking every now and then for the right reasons is fine.

Answer 5

Well I dont see a problem with it as long as it doesn't go overboard and cross the line into abuse. Also, l think its best to do it in the privacy of your home, why embarrass the child even more by doing it in public for everyone to see. either way though, we are slowly losing our rights to any sort of freedom, they are trying to pass a law in CA right now to make spanking a child under 4 a misdemeanor. Since when is it OK for people to tell us how to raise and descipline our own children. Im sure in the next few years, other states will follw.

Answer 6

In my personal opinion, spanking was very effective before it became known as "child abuse". Kids today are in need of a good hand across the hind-end! They have no sense of respect for adults and misbehave on end! And it's all because of the parents of today.
For example, my boyfriend and I went to the state fair last year and were apalled at the number of kids ages 12-16 walking around by themselves and acting as if they owned the entire fairgrounds. We were bumped, shoved, and tripped countless times and never once heard "excuse me". First of all, when I was that age, my parents cared enough about me to not let me roam around a large area by myself, and second, if I bumped into someone, "excuse me" was the first thing out of my mouth, and if it wasn't I was scolded for it. At mine and my boyfriend's last ride, the Zipper, we had been waiting in line for going on a hour. Not long before our turn, a young girl about the age of 14 or 15 broke in line with three of her friends a few people ahead of us. After basically being walked on the whole time at the fair, I'd had enough. I told the operators of the ride and they said they'd handle it. When the girl and her friends were next, the operators told her to get out of line. She argued and finally walked off, cursing at me for telling! This is a PERFECT example of children who were not disciplined at a younger age. I thank my parents about every day for the scolding and spankings I got because it gave me a sense of respect.
People today say that spankings are a form of child abuse and shouldn't be used because it could damage the childrens' minds and make them think they are not loved, or something equally ridiculous. If a child is slapped, punched, etc. on a daily basis for nothing at all, THAT is child abuse! But popping a child on the hind-end or on the hand for bad behavior is showing that child that what they are doing is wrong! The next time that child thinks about doing that behavior again, they associate the behavior with the punishment! And guess what, IT WORKS!! Time-out and putting the child on restriction may work sometimes if the misbehavior is minor. But when a child is pitching a fit in Wal-Mart because they can't get that toy they want, that kid deserves to go out in the yard a pick a switch!
Spankings worked generations before us and we wonder why kids today are so out of control. It's because the parents of today are actually listening to the psycho-babble bull about kids. These are THEORIES that these "scientists" and "psychologists" are putting out there! That doesn't mean EVERYONE should listen! That means everyone should have their own opinion.

Answer 7

I will not say it is right nor wrong since me too i have been spanked in a correction manner and today I feel am on the straight path and have trust from both parents ......so i think someone(parents) must know when to use it but never abuse of it

Answer 8

I have 1 child , he is 12 now & I have never spanked him.
I find that taking privelidges away hurt him more.
Growing up my mom used switches on my back until blood poured off of me. I feel communicating with your child and taking away things they like for a period of time is better than spanking. They don't rebel or hate you for it. Sure they get mad , pout a bit but with your talkk to go with the punishment they understand WHY they are being punished. Hitting NEVER solves anything at all.

Answer 9

I think more people should spank their kids, to me it seems like kids are getting worse and worse every day, and there is no discipline in the homes! My little brother is now 17 and he walks all over my parents because they never disciplined him and now hes to big to put over your knee!! You need to show the child what he did wrong and make him understand there are consequenses for bad behavior starting at an early age!

Answer 10

Exellent question Jesse, I'm not religous, but in proverbs it says " a father that dosn't disciplin his son, hates his son. It also says beat thy son for he shall not surely die." It also gives the lenght and diminsions of the rod you should use. Some children have said they know their parents love them because they whip them. Sounds strange dos'nt it. I've seen parents hit their kids with their hand and that is STUPID, I told my wife when my children were young "you hit my son in the face again I'll kill you and I meant it. I've witnessed parents that don't instruct their children they just hit them and that's stupid in my opinon. Teaching your children can work just as good as whipping because they do want to please thir parents only sometimes they get out of control in ways that a wipping on their fatty little behinds with a rod is the only thing that brings back control. Slapping a kid with your hand should be such an offense they person that does this should be slapped 10 times for every slap. Big big difference in whipping which is right than releasing frustration and just all out bully and abuse, to a child.

Answer 11

extremely, previous adolescents does look somewhat previous ... and that i particular do no longer purely like the seen it yet wager that's a danger to deserve and get it ... even at 23. however the son might ought to agree (consent); Dad and pals shouldn't forcibly bodily punish him. whilst he grow to be in college and you have been paying his training and such and if he have been "goofing off" at school, then perhaps he ought to have had the alternative, get spanked or artwork to earn his own training. yet now he ought to the two be earning an earnings, or he must be OUT and studying the thank you to earn his own way contained in the international. So, regrettably, 23 won't be too previous ... yet subsequently it particular seems he's in basic terms too previous for such!! .