I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?
2007-01-22 03:14:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you were both a little wrong, you for telling me about your feelings knowing he has a girlfriend, you didn't need to tell him that to get over him. Think about how she would feel and would you really want to hook up with this guy if he cheated on her?
If he did it to her trust me he'd do it to you. He was a jerk for saying what he said, it was like he was boosting his ego and hear you tell him you wanted to hook up just to shoot you down. He ain't worth it. The cat is out of the bag and now there is this mess, a word to the wise, never crap where you eat, don't mess around with people at work because things like this happen. A lot of companies frown on fraternization and you could be terminated.
Let it go and really get over him, he's got a girlfriend and he isn't interested. Find someone who is worth it and chalk this experience up to keeping things to ourselves, especially at work.
There's a whole world of men out there who would treat you as you should be.
2007-01-22 03:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wanted to confirm that you want to hook up with him. If you can get over the fact, then he should also be able to get over it. Next time you go to pass him in a hallway, step in front of him, and say look, let's either talk about what happened, or forget that it happened and go back to being friends. Tell him that you miss talking to him and having him as a friend. Best of Luck
2007-01-22 11:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering he already had a g/f and you knew this, you shouldn't have let your feelings get in the way. It's obvious he doesn't want you so move on and find someone else who isn't committed. He could be ignoring you because he doesn't want to lead you on or have you think something is there when there isn't. Your better off to just leave well enough alone and let it go. Good Luck
2007-01-22 11:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let it go. Sounds like he was toying with your feelings anyhow. Just be the bigger person and let it all go. When he walks by pretend that it is not awkward and say hi.
Find someone that you can have sex with and day dream about during the day that you do no work with. Even if it is just a friend with benefits. It will help you get past your thoughts of him.
2007-01-22 11:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him face to face and figure this out. He is probaly not talking to you because you said in your letter you want to keep it proffessional. I am sure he thinks he is honoring your wishes. The only way to get the tension out of the air is by talking. Sit down with him and figure this out. You will feel much better I am sure.
2007-01-22 11:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurlllllllll as soon as he told you to get with the other guy...you should have known he wasnt really interested. So just let it go.
2007-01-22 11:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, "I think we should have sex." see what he'll do from the comment...after that take the infomation and decide from there what level he's on in terms of how he feels about you then you'll know to stay away or bring it back to the "professional side."
2007-01-22 11:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a GF...move on Bimbo..
2007-01-22 11:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Twizler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2007-01-22 11:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by nouna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new job and forget about that loser
2007-01-22 11:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋