My father got upset with me and told me he would't go to my wedding if I wore that color. But me and my fiance picked it out together and I really like it. I don't wan't to wear white like everyone I want to be different. What do I do?
2007-01-22 03:13:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
HELL YES! I'm so glad there's another person in the world with a red wedding dress!
I ordered mine in scarlet, and it's from Maggie Sottero. When people started criticizing me, I told them it was MY day, and I'd wear the color that I liked.
That said, keep in mind that not so long ago, women just wore their best dress to their wedding, and wore it again and again after the wedding. Red is the traditional wedding dress color in India and China. Blue is traditional in Vietnam, and for the Amish.
DON'T WEAR WHITE BECAUSE EVERYONE ELSE TELLS YOU TO! If you need support, I'm putting my email and IM info in my profile here.
And shame on your father. It's his daughter's wedding. If you wanted to come to the wedding in your birthday suit, he shouldn't even say a word.
2007-01-22 03:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are any other elements of your wedding going to be traditional? I mean, are you just planning to wear a brightly colored dress, but still have your dad walk you down the aisle, a flower girl, a boquet toss, the usual reception, a limo, flowers, everything like a normal wedding- or are you going all out with the unconventional? I think a colorful dress is good if you want the whole event to be kind of different but if you plan a wedding that is otherwise traditional in other aspects, it's kind of out of place. However I understand you wanting your dress to be different. I have seen lots of wedding dresses that are the usual white or ivory with accents of color- not just pink either- any color. I would choose a dress in white or ivory, maybe in a cut that was a little unusual, more to your liking and have your tailor add the apple color that you like to accent it- like at the waist, the neck, a bow or sash- sew on an appliqué, etc.
2007-01-22 03:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not traditional in the USA to wear a color other than white, but if you and your fiance are ok with it, and like the dress, then it shouldn't matter too much. maybe you could try to explain to your father that you respect his opinion, but you really have your heart set on doing this. Explain your reasons and i'm sure he'll come around. Generally the white in the dress is to sybolize purity and innocence. If your dad is very tradtional, he might be offended by your color choice because he thinks it means that you are not "pure" or innocent. If this is the case, you can try to explain to him that red is the traditional color of good luck (in some cultures, like China). If you're going with a green apple, you can explain that green is the color of fertility.
Good luck, and try not to let this bring you down. Its your wedding day!!! :)
2007-01-22 03:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it is your wedding, you should wear what you want. One option, is to pick a traditional white or ivory dress for the ceremony, but change into the apple color for the reception. Be sure to think about how you will feel about the pictures in 20 years. Will you still be glad you wore apple? Traditional colors will always appear classic in photographs, but that doesn't mean you should conform completely. Do both! I agree with the bridemaids' dress idea also though to bring in the color.
2007-01-22 03:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Krystle B 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's your wedding day, do what you're comfortable in. I'm sorry your father doesn't agree but it really is your day. I've seen lots of weddings with different colored wedding dresses. Maybe you would have your father come with just you to the place that has the dress and try it on for him. Maybe once he sees it on you, he'll like it. :)
2007-01-22 05:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither do i. i don't want to wear white either. it's a color that is seen too much. first of all...it's your wedding. have it your way. if your dad doesn't want to come along because of the color of your wedding dress then you find someone else to walk you down the asile. you should not be unhappy on your wedding day because of preferences of everyone else but you and the groom. that is just plain stupid and selfish from your dad. if you want to wear a red wedding dress i say go for it. if your dad doesn't like it then he doesn't have to come.
2007-01-22 04:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR wedding. Wear what you want. Tell your dad that wearing white is an old fashioned tradition that doesn't mean anything anymore. Tell him that you and your fiancee both love the dress. Appeal to your dad's better nature. Tell him that he's really going to regret missing your wedding, especially over something so petty.
I wanted an emerald engagement ring, but my husband wouldn't buy it because it "wasn't traditional". He got me a diamond. Don't get me wrong, I love the ring, but I wanted something different. So next year he's getting me an emerald anniversary ring to make up.
2007-01-22 03:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want, its your wedding...thats what everyone is going to tell you. I keep running into problems with my wedding planning as well, and I can tell you that that answer would be just about useless for me.
If I was you I would do a little balancing...how important is wearing red to you? is it as important as not wearing red is to your father? is he against all other colors, or just red? If you had your heart set on wearing apple red, try to sway your father by showing him the dress in a picture, or bring him dress shopping with you. If worse came to worse for me I would just cry like a baby and sob about how awful your wedding is going to be and how it isnt perfect like you wanted and now your going to look like every other boring bride and its horrible, and for kicks you can add in how much he hates you for wanting to wear red so now you ruined everything...blah blah blah. No one really likes to resort to those measures, but I have on occassion and it really worked for me.
2007-01-22 03:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maroon, or browns, depends also on the colors of the wedding party. You don't want to get a brown dress if the bridesmaids are wearing brown..
2016-03-29 08:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, It's your wedding-
tell dad that what makes you special is that very fact that your different and at least you didn't choose to wear your birthday suit to your wedding as I have seen it before and believe me wasn't funny.
As a mother, I am proud of you & your fiance.
You go Gurl !!!!
2007-01-22 03:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by annalani64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋