Is hanging up on someone the ultimate in rudness that should not be tolorated, or should it be forgiven? If its forgivable, who should be the one to make first contact; the person who hung up, or the person who was hung up on???
2007-01-22 03:12:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
What happened is this: my sons bublic school is crap (No secret to anyone in the area) and my best friends kid also goes to the school. I said the school was crap, and that the kids were being jipped out of a decent education; she said "My son goes there too and he is just fine....maybe its just not the school for you or YOUR kid..." CLICK. I offended her I guess, but 5 days later, no conversation? I dont think I should have to call her, and am wondering if she isnt just too high maintenance and petty to be friends with.
2007-01-22 03:26:33 · update #1
I think you can have your opinion about the school, and if she happens to have a different opinion it's not a reason to hang up the phone in the middle of a conversation. Thats childish and extremeIy rude. I definitely wouldn't entertain the idea of calling her. That would be saying it's okay to hang up the phone in your face any time she doesn't agree with you...and you'll go running to the phone to call her back and see why you offended her. Frankly I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that.
2007-01-22 03:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Impulsive acts like hanging up on someone (where no-one is really injured, and the person might have gone on to say something they would later regret) are quite forgiveable, in my opinion. Like family, friends get mad at each other from time to time, and hanging up the phone in anger is one of those things that will occasionally happen. If it happens a lot, then that's a different case, and you need to speak to the person (when everyone is calm) and tell them that it bothers you and you wish they'd at least bring the conversation to a quick close before hanging up. It's a fairly childish way to react, but sometimes people do it because they don't trust what they'll say next if they don't hang up quickly.
2007-01-22 03:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Corinnique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't sound like true friends at all. a real friend doesn't make you regret knowing them, a real friend doesn't make you question or think they hate you. they're not nice people, they don't fully appreciate the wonderful person you are and maybe other people will. forget them. try making better friends with others, and don't let these girls get to you. if they see you moving on with your life and friends, they'll see what a mistake they made, and if they don't try to stop you fading away fromt them then i guess it's right that you shouldn't hang with them anymore. all the best hun.
2016-03-29 08:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a sign that he/she was mad at you. Of course, it's rude, but in heated arguments it happens. If you give up on a close friend for hanging up on you then you must not be close to that person. My best friend and I have hung up on each other many times over the years, but we've always forgiven each other. But it really all depends on how close you are to the person (I wouldn't forgive someone if I barely knew him and he did it to me). But just give it some time and see how you feel in a few days.
2007-01-22 03:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds too high maintenance and petty to me. If I were you, I'd cross this one off your Friend List and move on with your life. Obviously you guys have to been in your mid-20s at least, if you have school-age children. (My guess would be late 20s/early 30s.) What business does a grown woman have for acting this immature and hanging the phone up on you just because you made a simple comment that wasn't intended to offend or upset her? Like I said, find a new friend--this one sounds like a spoilled 13 year old.
2007-01-22 05:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She was the one who took offense to something you certainly didn't mean for her to take offense to. You were only stating something about the school system. She's the one who turned it into a direct insult (which it wasn't). I would not call her, let her be the one to call you. She was very rude. If she doesn't call and apologize, then she was never a great friend in the first place.
2007-01-22 04:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Starscape 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems like a dumb reason to end a friendship, so unless there was a conversation going on that would already have ended it, I would forgive them. I think who makes contact would depend on the situation.
2007-01-22 03:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely never any good reason to just hang up on someone. I think this is a way that people try to gain control - and make sure that they get the last word. Plain RUDE!
2007-01-22 03:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there's other issues besides a hang up....i think hanging up is totally rude....i'll give most people another chance (we all have bad days)....i guess if the friendship is worth salvaging (and it might be since you have kids who are friends) then i'd be the bigger person and give her a call (but for the record i totally think she is the one who should be calling and apologizing to YOU)
2007-01-22 04:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's friends and there are "close friends. " If the two of you are close friend, she's probably wondering the same thing... it doesn't matter who makes the first move.. ....
Don't lose a friendship over pettiness and pride.
Friends understand friends.....
2007-01-22 06:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋