My boyfriend and I are expecting. First for me second for him. Why does he talk to his babys mama everyday? Even the days that he doesnt have his child. For example this morning, she called at 7am. For what reason... I dont know. He wont answer it infront of me. When she calls he will answer and go in the other room. It is really starting to annoy me. Am I just being paranoid? What is he hidding? Cuz if there wasnt anything to hide he would speak with her right in front of me.
2007-01-22 03:11:47 · 20 answers · asked by alainall 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
should I say something to him? Cuz all he will say is that it is none of my buisness. Or it will just end up in a fight.
2007-01-22 03:14:40 · update #1
I am to the point of being fed up with it.
2007-01-22 03:14:59 · update #2
i disagree that 7 am is too early. with a child in school i get up at 6'45. so by 7 is when the problems would have to be dealt with. and he is a father, and whether or not you like it, it is great that he is still there for his child and the mother. you may not think it now, but it is very hard to raise a child, and i'm sure much harder alone. now as for him leaving the room, maybe he thought you were still asleep, or he's just trying to be nice, or maybe you sigh every time she calls and he doesn't want to listen to you complain. i'm sure because you are pregnant everything upsets you more...i understand that...but you weren't' pregnant when you met the guy, and i'm just wondering if he's always been this way with in regards to his child? so you have to figure out if it bothered you before you got pregnant..or if you just think he doesn't owe them anything else because he's having a NEW baby with you.
2007-01-22 04:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he could be hiding something, but why just jump to conclusions? Maybe he feels it's more respectful to you (and her) not to talk to her in front of you. Maybe it's just a matter of him not wanting to cause jealousy and conflict between you and her. Think about how you would want it to be if you two weren't together, but still have this child together, i'm sure you would hope for a good friendship, so that you can still raise the child in the best way for him or her. If it really does bother you, have a sit-down non-confrontational conversation with him about your feelings when he does it, and even ask him why he leaves the room to talk to her. But take what he says at face value, and tell him you will after he offers an explanation, you really don't have any reason not to.
2007-01-22 11:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless something is wrong with the child at 7AM then it is inappropriate for her to be calling at that time especially since she knows that you guys live together. I feel that any time a man is being sneaky it is because he has something to hide. Or else he would explain to you what the nature of the call was about.
2007-01-22 11:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying and unfortunately it doesn't sound good. I wasn't pregnant at the time but the guy that I was with did the same thing with baby's mom. He ended up playing this ridiculous game where he would tell me she's crazy, tell her I'm crazy and turn each other against one other when in reality he was the dog. It eventually didn't work because I was sick of competing with it all over someone so dumb and he ended up going back to her. You don't need the extra stress of wondering so tell him what you think if he don't like it piss on him, you can be just fine with out him.
2007-01-22 11:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You could try telling him that it is stressing you out and that stress is no good for your baby - he has to tell you what it is about after/during each call, or do the other thing - choices are his to make.
Sounds like he still needs to be in contact with his ex, which could mean he is not over her yet, or just that she is insecure and he is being kind and helping her over a bad patch, but he should tell you so you can trust him,now and in the future!
Good luck
2007-01-22 11:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by essdee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking to the mother of his child about his child, ok I can see that. But, in my experience, when a man hides his conversations from someone who is basically acting like his wife, something is up. I would never have any conversation hidden from my spouse/significant other unless I was talking smack about them, cheating on them, or planning a suprise party. If it's not your birthday, I would start to wonder if I were you.
2007-01-22 13:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Firegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know u should be happy for the fact that he takes care of he stays in contact with her because it shows that he cares for his kid and thats how u want him to be with your baby.
however it is weird that he takes the call in the other room. i think u two need to have a chat about this. it sounds like maybe he is hiding something or maybe he is just not comfortable talking to her in front of u. just remember there is a reason she is an ex.
2007-01-22 12:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy at all. My baby's father never did that to me with his other baby's mama. I think it is disrespectful for him to talk to her everyday unless it is about their child. Which I really doubt that. There is no need for him to go to the other room to talk to her if he has nothing to hide. I would say something to him.
2007-01-22 11:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Prettycutetk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you're right to be upset about it. He hasn't got anything to hide though. He's just pandering to her, probably being all nice and gushy, for fear that she'll cause access problems with the little one. Being totally spineless in other words!! You need to step up and tell him how rude and insensitive he is being. Tell him point blank to decide what he wants because he simply cant treat you so disrespectfully.
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-22 11:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he talk to her everyday? Because they have a child together and communication is key. Why does he go into another room? Maybe it's because 1)He knows it bothers you or 2) the conversation is none of your business and he wants privacy.
2007-01-22 11:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋