I've been going out with this guy for 2 weeks and i really like him ALOT!! He still doesn't treat me like a gf!! Im sooo nice to him and i ALWAYS give him money for gas and stuff!! I know that he likes me and cares about me but he just doesnt show it! I've tried telling him that i want to be treated better and more like a gf but he just won't!! I really want to be his gf and stay with him but i just dont know what to do!!!! I REALLY LIKE HIM ALOT AND I DONT WANT TO BREAK UP WITH HIM!!! I know we have just started going out and everything but i just want to be treated like a damn gf and not like ****!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!?!?
2007-01-22 03:10:15 · 10 answers · asked by tiNkErBeLL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE has been having really BAD money problems!!
2007-01-22 03:18:42 · update #1
Where do you come from? Where I come from women do not give men money so the men will like them. How exactly do you know he likes and cares for you more than as an ATM? You yourself say he doesn't act like it, doesn't show it, and you've spoken to him and he still doesn't care. If you are going to pay some guy, at least get your moneys worth and dump this loser.
Really... I mean...a gigolo without benefits?
2007-01-22 03:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off...don't let him put you through this, I'm kinda going through the same. It really breaks the heart and tears you all up inside, not healthy. In my situation I was told to "play hard to get", I know it's easier said than done, but you should at least try it. Don't call him and don't pay him any attention...give him time and he will come back to you if he really wants to be with you. With giving him his time and space, he will either realize how much he misses you or he will realize how much you guys aren't meant to be. It's a gamble, but if you're looking for results you should try it. Being stuck in a place where you're not sure whats going on...you really need to know before it drives you completely insane.
2007-01-22 11:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by sad red head 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To date someone, or be attracted to someone that treats you like a second class citizen suggests issues beyond your liking this guy. Terms like immature, obsessing, low self esteem and overly dependent come to mind. No self respecting woman will hang around a guy who treats her badly... the long term effects of being degraded daily are too expensive in terms of your relationship to yourself, your self image, self respect and emotional wellbeing.
My recommendation: a) put it on the table- "treat me well, as I need and want to be treated, or I need to create a distance between us"; or; b) "gird up you lions" and walk away with the limited self respect you have. Either way, never let anyone rob you of you power... never allow anyone to diminish you self respect.... never be a "cling-on" unless you're Patty Hearst, have Stockholm syndrome and need to do so for survival!
Finally, unless you're married or related, never make a man's money troubles you money troubles. he's no man, he's still a boy!
2007-01-22 11:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to hear about your problem.But i think you were smothering him?And as far as giving him money for gas ,Quit it.I think you are trying to hard.I think you are wasting your time.2 weeks is not long.Do you got your own vehicle?I personaly believe you are wasting your time on someone who really does'nt care about you.Well in the way you would like him too.But life is to short to be wasting it on a boy who don't respect you.Give him a break for awhile mabe he will develop some real feelings.And tell him to pay you back,All you lent him for gas or whatever.Peace Victorio
2007-01-22 11:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm in your case i would have suggested talking to him but you say you have already done that and he still hasnt changed so i see only two more options either breaking up with him until he decides that you are worth more than he thinks which you seem to have already shown disapproval, so your only other option is to wait it out and scorning him everytime he treats you wrong, hopefully he will pick up on his own ignorance and changing his attitude by becoming less chauvanistic and treating you the way you deserve to be treated.
2007-01-22 11:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Juhboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving him money!!! And stop ALWAYS being a DOORMAT! If he is not treating you the way that you want to be treated then stop letting him use you until he does. Stop giving him money, PERIOD!! He should stand on him own two feet.
2007-01-22 11:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by dynamicduo79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes using u for the money and other things...break up and find someone that treats u better
2007-01-22 11:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give him money for "GAS and STUFF".
1. he is using you for you money
2. He is scared cause two weeks is to soon
I think you should take it slow with this guy and what happens happens. Don't throw youself at him.
Good Luck!
2007-01-22 11:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, maybe there's something he's doing or something on his mind that is always distracting him from you. Try to find out what that is. I should know, I was distracted by my work for sometime.
2007-01-22 11:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Help_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is using you... stop giving him money.. gas money is his responsibility... not yours.. dump him
2007-01-22 11:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by luvtheMarines! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋