2007-01-22 03:03:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hunny,
The famous saying comes to mind when I read your question.
" When the Cat's away the mouse tend to play"
Sweetheart, cry, get-upset, get-mad, whatever you need to do to get through this. I do not agree with what I call "conditional cheating" Cheating is Cheating" What did he think you would be forgiving, yikes, he is not only a dumb but dumber for taking you for granted.
YOU DESERVE BETTER !!!!! Remember your Number 1
2007-01-22 03:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by annalani64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd be very, very upset...well I know I was when I found out my boyfriend was cheating. Why be sympathetic to his needs? You have needs too right??? You're not sleeping around. I'm not going to sit up here and say once a cheater always a cheater (that's not always true), but I think that if you really love him and he loves you then you should give him a second chance, but if he does it again dump him!!!
2007-01-22 11:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would he be so kind and sympathetic to your cheating on him?
There isn't a need to be upset, just thoughtful, if cheating means nothing, does fidelity mean as little to him? I controlling his 'needs' is so difficult for him what happens if you have a time in your life when you can't have sex, like after a baby? Will he use his 'needs' excuse while you are in labor? I wouldn't be upset at losing a BF because of it, but if I kept him I'd be very careful about trusting him.
2007-01-22 11:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sympathetic? Are you kidding?
Have you cheated on him while he was over there? I'm a guy that is a firm believer that what's good for the goose and all that. Men have no more need than women for sex only more desire. If he can't abstain from his sexual drive for the short time he's over seas, then you need to rethink your relationship.
2007-01-22 11:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he had no right to cheat on you no matter how far he is from you, there's no excuse for it, I think that he has alot of expalining to do so yeah you should definatly be upset especially if you've never cheated on him before. But I think that it's best if yall talk about it and the decide what yall should do next.
2007-01-22 11:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by JiaRenQu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sympathetic to his needs? Do you think he would be sympathetic if you told him the same news? No, he has shown himself for what he really is, he is a cheater and you can rest assured, that if you forgive and forget, he will remind you when he does it again and he will.
2007-01-22 11:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be upset. It really depends on yourself though, can you forgive him for this, was it a mistake, was it stress that lead him to do it? Is he sorry he did it? There's alot of factors to consider, and don't hide your real feelings, if you are upset than let him know. In my opinion, it was wrong and I don't know if i would forgive him. If you really love someone, nothing should make you cheat.
2007-01-22 11:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by cmp8423 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. Expecially since he was overseas. I hope he was not in a country with alot of STDs or AIDS. I would never be able to be with him again. What about your needs. He is a selfish prick to risk his health and yours. Maybe it will rot off and you won't have to worry about "his needs" anymore. Good luck!
2007-01-22 11:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by angie a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn right you have the right to be upset.But why the sympathy?Do you miss him?I know this must be hard on you,But Now you know how much to trust your hubby.But i think you both should seek counselling.If you love one another enough to be able to forgive and move on.I believe you are a good woman. Peace i wish you well Victorio
2007-01-22 11:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be either. This guy certainly doesn't deserve your sympathy for getting his leg over, and you shouldn't be uspet because he clearly isn't worth it!
Forget about this loser and find yourself a decent bloke who wouldn't dream of doing something like that.
I know getting over someone is easier said than done so I hope you feel better about the whole situation asap.
Go out, get your hair done, treat yourself and enjoy being single for a while!
All the best! xxxx
2007-01-22 11:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋