OK, so i think I'm in love with my best friend... We dated last summer and i was a total ***** the whole time. I dont know why, i treated him like crap! We broke up because I knew he deserved better. Well now 5 months later i can't stop thinking about it. I feel so bad about how i treated him (he's fine, not mad were still great friends), but i have this huge feeling of regret for not giving it 100%. I told him this last night, and he basically said that i'm not what he wants in a girl, but i know that I am he just has a destorted view of me as a girlfriend because of how i treated him. Is there a way I can show him what I'm really like and that I can be the girl he deserves or should i just let it go and move on...?
2007-01-22 02:51:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately he feels like if he tried again you would do the same thing again and it probably broke his heart. You have to earn his trust and respect back and then talk to him about giving it another try. Once you have the talk with him then you can decide whether to move on or try again. Good luck!!!
2007-01-22 02:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that the guy you were mean to has forgiven you for what happened and does not want to dwell on it to much. I think reading too much into what happened, so you made a mistake we all do things we don't mean to do, but it happens and we have to learn to deal with it and move on. He may not be ready for a relationship and just wants so more time, it is ok, because rushing into a relationship can result into sometimes bad results or results we weren't expecting. If he decides down the road if he sees you again and wants to pursue a relationship then he will let you know. It may not be meant to be at this point. There are plenty of guys out there. Even if you and him want to stay friend and hang out that is fine, there should be no problem.
2007-01-22 11:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to believe him when he says you aren't what he wants in a girlfriend. Cherish him as a friend. But move on in the romantic arena. He has been honest enough to tell you a difficult truth. Find someone who values you as a girlfriend. And learn from your past difficulties in being emotionally intimate. I would also suggest seeking some counseling to figure out why you were so nasty in the relationship. I suspect you weren't very happy or content with him either.
2007-01-22 10:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by TO Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be better off as just friends. I'm sure you dont want to ruin the friendship you both share. I would let go of the possibilty of a relationship, and stay his best friend. But, if he comes back to you and says he would like to try dating, then go for it. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 10:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Spoiled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You seem very unsure about your feelings and self worth. Your ex has picked up on this. You seem unstable for him. Take time to get into yourself. Work on your inner-being. If you need professional help, get it.
Good Luck: The right guy is still out there for you.
2007-01-22 11:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He obviously said you aren't what he wants in a girl.... not because of what you did and how you treated him but because you are capable of being like that.
Move on. Leave him alone to live his life with someone who cares more about him than about themself....
2007-01-22 10:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it.
For some reason you acted like that in a relationship.
You will do it again in future relationships.
Seek counseling
2007-01-22 10:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ONLY WAY TO FIND OUT IS TO ASK. HE MAY BE GUN SHY FROM THE PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES WITH YOU. YOU MUST HAVE A REASON WHY YOU TREATED HIM THIS WAY AND IF YOU CAN GET OVER THAT AND EXPLAIN IT TO HIM YOU MAY HAVE A CHANCE.
2007-01-22 10:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go and move on --- as a friend he knows you well and has decided that both of you are not suited to each other --- sorry and my best wishes
2007-01-22 10:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its too late for you to change something. I guess you have to move on and try to learn your new lesson about what you did to him.
2007-01-22 10:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋