Will I lose his respect?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. We've got on well since then and were flirting too. We've agreed to have sex once and see what happens. As much as we both want to do this, as it gets closer to it I'm worried that he won't respect me any more. Has anybody been in a similar situation and what would you advise? I would rather forget about doing this even if I lose him altogether than do it and lose his respect? Will he understand if I say I don't want to do it because I don't want him to think less of me - it's not like a one-night stand or anything because I care what this man thinks about me. We were together for a long time and have both had long-term relationships before but with my exes we have always had a clearcut finish, this situation is new to me. Please help.

Just to clarify, we had a healthy sexual relationship - this would not be the first time we have sex.

Answer 1

If you have to ask that question, it's probably better that you don't do anything.
KEEP IN MIND, that HE might think of it as a one night stand even if you dont. Be sure to find out exactly where you will stand afterwards, eg, will you be back together? Will you remain friends? Or will you drift apart even further? (Which I'm guessing you don't want because you said you care for him.)
My guess is that you probably won't lose his respect, unless you think he will lose yours. It depends how close you both were as a couple, and how close you will be after the deed is done.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Not sure if you mean have sex once more, or that it would be the actual first time you are having sex. If you are talking about having sex for the first time, don't. If you were in a relationship with him and didn't do it then, why now? Are you doing this to try to win him back? Hopefully not. Sex should not be used as a means of staying together. If you have already had sex and this is a let's just see what happens once we do it again, still......don't do it. If you continue to have sex with him whenever he wants you to, then you will end up being hurt even more than you are now. If you two are not together, and what you want is for you to get back together, then wait until that happens to have sex with him. Respect yourself first, then others will respect you. Your body is precious, and let no one take advantage of that. There is a reason you two are no longer together, think about what that reason is and then think about if that is something you can get past if you two get back together. If it isn't something that is going to go away, just let him go all together.

Answer 3

You need to consider this carefully. Seems to me that if it was going to happen then it would happen spontaneously, but there's a bit to much advanced planning here. Surely the relationship you had before was about more than sex, so why should it be this high on the agenda now? Keep getting on well, keep flirting and if the spark is still there it will catch fire naturally again. If you do this, and it doesn't work out then it is actually a one night stand in a lot of respects, only with someone you know. Just make sure you keep your self respect intact whatever you do.

Answer 4

I don't think he'd lose respect for you but if the relationship's over it's over. Don't build your hopes up thinking that if you have sex this one time you might get back together. If you were going to get back together you would anyway, regardless if you had sex once more or not. I would say make a clean break from this relationship & avoid getting hurt. If you wanna stay freinds fine but I would say DO NOT have sex with him.

Answer 5

Dont do it, if he respected you he wouldnt be asking you to do this in first place. Also if you were sure you wanted to do it, you wouldnt be asking on here if you should. That side is over dont mess yourself up and be played for a fool. Move on find someone who does, can and will respect love and treat you right

Answer 6

it depends on why you finished,its only been a month since you split up,i would wait if i was you ,if he still wants you it should not be for a one night stand or a jog down memory lane, if he still wants the sexual side of the relationship,it shouldn't of ended in the first place,good luck

Answer 7

no, the way the baptist conventions are set up, each and each church has man or woman administration over what they do. they are not below the comparable administration the catholic church homes are. they're truly no longer in charge to one yet another. Therefor, what one does would not mirror in any respect on yet another. i could although, no longer have any understand for those in touch in such incidents. i've got self assurance that each and each man or woman is in charge for his or her own strikes and could be dealt with subsequently. regardless of their association.

Answer 8

i think that your ex boyfriend would respect you more if you decided that you didn't want to have sex. you never mentioned in your question whether or not you have had sex with your other boyfriends. if you have never had sex before you might mention to your ex that you would like to wait until you are married when it would be more meaningful to you

Answer 9

sounds to me like you ex wants his cake and eat it, if he cares about you and respects you then he would want to be with you full scale, not just sleep with you wen its convienient for him.
if you sleep with him then he'll come back for more and he will start to see you as a free lay wen he wants it at his beck and call, make it hard for him. dont give in unless hes willing to be with you as boyfriend and girlfriend

good luck x x

Answer 10

Thinking too much is a disease, just go with the flow.
Plus sex with ex is normally great, and would you think less of him ?