I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?
2007-01-22 02:23:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From now on, never tell someone that you want to hook up with them. Now he has that and will use it to make you feel wierd and uncomfortable. He's playing you, and jerking you around, you have a right to be mad. This guy is your "friend?" No friend treats another that way.
To end the awkwardness, just forget about it. Either you can go up to him and say (preferably in front of others so that they know what a jerk he is): "Thanks for jerking my feelings around and reminding me what a great 'friend' you are." then walk away, or just drop it. Don't consider him a friend anymore, or a love interest, merely a co-worker. Just play it off if he confronts you, or tell him that you will only speak to him if it concerns work. Don't apologize for being upset with him, you had every right to do so. Don't date people from the workplace or reveal feelings anymore.
If you can, consider getting a new job.
2007-01-22 02:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do not ignore each other. it makes things so uncomfortable. trust me, i've been down this road more than once. You've already told him how you feel, so there's no taking that back. If he asked you out to hang out or something, then go ahead. He wouldn't have asked you if he wasn't having problems that he wanted out of his existing relationship. Yes it is the wrong way for him to go about things with his current girlfriend, but if he's not happy with her, it will end sooner or later. Just be careful with someone like that. I don't agree with the way he is handling things with you or his girlfriend. but in all reality it'll happen if it was meant to happen. just make sure he is broke up with her before you proceed with him other than at work.
Be very careful with someone like that. because if he's doing this to his girlfriend, he will do it to you.
2007-01-22 02:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave dude alone, for the fact he even thought about stepping out on his g/f proves he's not right for you anyway.
2007-01-22 02:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by so_sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2007-01-22 02:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋