OK, here's the story.
My friend Sally has been dating Billy for 2 years. Billy is divorce with 2 kids. He just recently legally got divorced but had been seperated for a long time. His ex delayed the divorce because she didn't want to give him 20% of the value of their home. Sally is deperate to get engaged and keeps hounding Billy. Sally is turning 30 this year and Billy is throwing her a surprise party. The party is more of a childrens party 1-4 at dave and busters, soda and snacks. My friend Sally is a night club partier type of person. I don't think she is going to be happy with this type of party, it seems like Billy made it more for his own kids then Sally's taste. Since I live 5 hours away and attend school for my master on Sat- we are not getting up there until after the party- Billy is having pizza and beer at this house. Billy beg me to come up on this date cause I menation maybe I should come up another weekend and take Sally- OUT to a club for her birthday- like
2007-01-22 02:09:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
a girls night out in additition to the family party. But he really wants me up there so I though maybe Billy is going to propose??!! But our mutal friend Chrissy just told me NO WAY and Billy stated he was not going to be pushed or have to follow Sally's time line. Come to find out that Sally is demanding a ring by the end of this month or she is "leaving". OK- Sally has no money, up to her eyeball in dept and no where to go.
Here's my question- Sally keeps asking and talking to me about wedding stuff, and how much stuff cost and almost planning out her wedding- since I am getting married this year. What do I do???
What would you do??
Say nothing, tell her to focus on something else, tell her to calm down?? I feel like I am going to walk into world war 3 at her birthday party. Since I know she wants to get drunk and engaged all she is going to get is a plate of chicken fingers!!!
2007-01-22 02:13:28 · update #1
Sally doesn't seem ready to take on the commitment of being a stepmother to Billy's kids, and I think he recognizes that. By throwing a party that his kids would be happy to attend, he's sending her a message. I doubt a proposal is in the works. He wants to find out first if she understands what she's getting into.
However, you should go to support your friend on her birthday, and maybe talk some sense into her. She's bound to be asking the same questions you are, and you can help her sort things out. It sounds like her desperation to get married is tied to her age and not the person she's with.
2007-01-22 02:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sally has a dream honey. With her being in love and wanting marriage, you can't blame her for wanting to get married. She probably feels Billy loves her more than what this other friend of yours is saying!
With you being her friend, and she knows how happy you are to be getting marride, it's probably also making her want her dream even more.
IF I were you, I'd talk to Billy. Let him know how Sally has all of this love for him, how she's in hopes that he'll be getting down on one knee. Tell him there is NO WAY you can come all that way just to see one of your girlfriends heart broken!
I can see why Billy would want a party for her in a place where kids have fun. He's trying to make it a family thing so his children can be included. IF SALLY really loves Billy and his kids, she will need to understand his line of party place ideas.
Just because Sally is new to Billy's life, it doesn't mean she will come first or be number one. Even in the eyes of law, the VERY FIRST persons in one's life are FIRST. I hope if Billy ever does porpose, that Sally will have to learn to take the back seat to his children.
BE THE GOOD FRIEND you are and talk to BILLY. IF he's not able to understand, then I'd give fair warning to your good friend Sally.
2007-01-22 02:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know in advance what kind of party is planned for her so she doesn't have a nasty surprise and ask her to calm down about it. Being 30 doesn't mean it is too late to be happy. And in the end happiness is all that matters. Would she like to be married and unhappy? Maybe things are slow for a reason. Time is a good way to test a relationship. Besides, if you know that Sally is in debt and has nowhere to go Billy probably knows it too ...
2007-01-22 02:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 23:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sally is in for a big disappointment....if you are her "best friend" I think I would tip her off to the "party" Billy is throwing......and I would also advise her that, and I have said this MANY times...'men always want what they think they cannot have"...and behave accordingly....otherwise, she will scare off any potential suitor due to her looking desperate....
2007-01-22 02:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Toots 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chicken fingers?...does sally like chicken fingers?....if not get billy to make her something else....lol
2007-01-22 02:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bob P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This all their problem and you should stay out of it. Be there for your friend but keep out of the situation.
2007-01-22 02:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let he/she find the solution.
2007-01-22 02:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by gar_mello1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋