Ok here it goes. My g/f's dad has just gotten arrested for robbing a bank. I am very serious on this matter. Well he got arrested Saturday. And since then it’s all been down hill. I’ve been there for my g/f in anyway I could. But I feel that she is now putting a wall inbetween us. I just don’t know what to say to her that I haven’t already said to her to get around this wall. I just need some advice on how to confront her about it. Thank you.
2007-01-22 02:06:45 · 12 answers · asked by Dennis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he got arrested on Saturday then its been two days. You cant knock down a wall in that amount of time. She's probably still in shock. Just be there for her, give her hugs and let her know you're there. Thats all you can do and its more than enough. She'll snap out of it in her own time, you just need to be patient until she does
2007-01-22 02:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're in a touchy situation. Since her dad was arrested and we dont' know all of the details she's going through a traumatic time, and it may take awhile for her to get over it. I would let her put the wall up. This is her safety mechanism on how to deal. I wouldn't force it down or make her open up etc..that might truly scare her. I would wait until she comes to you, and yes, unfortunately that might take some time. Try and keep things "normal" between the two of you, but let her know you're there as well. Let me know how things go! Best wishes!
2007-01-22 10:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she's putting a wall up for you. She is in shock and is probibly in deep thought. She just needs some quiet time or at the least a break from thinking about her dad. It is very draining to be sad and upset. Give her some space. She'll come around after the shock wares off.
2007-01-22 10:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are actually OK with the fact that her dad robbed a bank, tell her that, and tell her that you'll be there for her and that you love her very much and that she can count on you for everything she needs.
also try to understand what she's going through right now. some people would like a shoulder to cry, others might want to be alone for a while. give her some time and try to figure out what type of person she is.
good luck :)
2007-01-22 10:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by in love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she is embarrassed i would just let her know that you care about her and you don't care what her dad did and if she never wants to talk of it again that's fine and if she does that fine but that you are always there don't worry she will come around she is going through a hard time right now
2007-01-22 10:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by 1401 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it happened recently and give it more times, it is very hard for her to deal with. Its her own dad and she doesn't know what she supposed to do. Now you have to do your best to inform her that you are there for her and tell her that you don't want to lose her for that silly reason. You can't just blunt her that she built a wall between you and her. Give it time and she will call your name again.
2007-01-22 10:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going thru a very traumatic emotional time right now. Just be patient it will take her some time and understanding to go thru the overwhelm.
2007-01-22 10:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her,show her that u care.It's a really difficult time for her now,so just give her some space.
2007-01-22 10:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her as much as you can try to tell her that everything will be okay. she will let you in again just give her some time it will be hard fro her but she will get through it with your help of corse.
2007-01-22 10:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by yoshi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont confront her just be there --- she is having a very difficult time but it will pass and she will know that you have not stopped supporting her
2007-01-22 10:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋