My BF & I got into an agruement yesterday morning because I looked at his phone when it rang. Then I made a call from my phone right after & he thought I called the number that I saw in his phone but I didn't. He then packed an overnight bag, without saying if he was coming back or not and then left. I was suspicious so I followed him to his friends house where he went to watch the game and sure enough he met up with some girl there and I followed him when he went to drop her off. The funny thing is that he noticed me following him and he called me after he dropped her off. I denied it at first over the phone because I wanted to confront him in person, but then I admitted that I did it. All he could do was call me a liar and say he didn't know if he could be with a liar, but I caught him with another girl and he lied about who she was. He then shows up at my apart. after he wouldnt take my calls anymore because he has a key and didn't say one word to me the whole time.
2007-01-22 01:49:15 · 11 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't live with me but he shows up whenever he wants and comes and goes as he pleases. He doesn't pay any bills there and he came in my aprt. and slept in my bed and didn't even want to talk to me. I'm not ready to dump him yet but feel guilty for getting caught following him, what should I do now??
2007-01-22 01:50:27 · update #1
Feel bad for following? sweetie im in no situation to say anything about. buh wat the hell are u feeling bad about he is clearly cheating on u .. and if he's not cheating on u then he's lying to u about bullsh*t,
it is his fault. if u felt he was being honest to u then u wouldnt have to follow him. who was that girl. go to her house and ask who she is.
u have a RIGHT to pick up his phone if someone calls it, u are his girlfriend.
he dont pay bills and walks up in YOUR house and doesnt say a word to u .. ther is more to this u havent said, and sweetie u wear the pants in this relationship , YOU put the roof over his head YOU put the food in his belly, he NEEDS you. not the other way around.
let me tell u. if u have doubt someone is fu*king around look into it, no matter what u have to do . i do it all the time. if there was nothing to find then there would be no problem. no problem with u and no problem with him. it might offend him yea but then he wouldnt mind so much becuz u wouldnt find anything. everytime i snoop aroud i always find soemting to question him about, now its gettin to the point where i dont find anyting. either he's doing a better job on coverin up or he's stopped fuckign around which is beter for me. u get me?
2007-01-22 02:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by phatguyanesegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's so quick to call you a liar because he's a liar! He was caught hanging out with some other woman, then won't talk to you, and you're wondering if it's your fault? And so what if you looked at his phone? If he wasn't trying to hide anything, he wouldn't care at all. He's cheating on you. Kick him to the curb.
2007-01-22 01:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up all of that players stuff right now. Set it outside of the door and change your locks. Even return gifts. That will get the message accross. He isn't just cheating, he's playing you. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this but he is accusing you of stupid stuff like lying because he feels guilty. I don't think you'll see him back around because he just lost his game. Don't let him back in!
2007-01-22 01:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take that key back! why would he stop taking your calls and still sleep in your bed? the hole thing is bizarre, what was he doing with that girl, and why the need for such Secrecy with the phone. sounds like a weird loser to me, watch out for your self and if you take him back have protected sex until he and you get check out. i think he was cheating and doesn't know how to deal with being caught.
2007-01-22 01:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Eda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOO!!!!! Why dwell in his mess. You are sleeping with a dog!!! When he goes on one of his overnights...CHANGE THE DAMN LOCKS!!!! You were not wrong for following him, and it appears to me that he tried to use revere psychology on you. Don't fall for that, cause it appears that it is working on you. WAKE UP! GO TO HOME DEPOT AND GET A NEW LOCK AND KEY! If he tries to become aggressive, 911 is ALWAYS available.
2007-01-22 01:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by *+* Miss NATION*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. He is a cheater.. he was calling you a liar to pass blame and take it away from him. Wise up. Leave him. Get your key from him as well. He came back so he could keep you on a string as his puppet... Move on...
2007-01-22 01:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by luvtheMarines! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. You cant be with someone you dont trust.
Trust me, I have been dealing with this for a year now, we have been married for 2, and im trying to get a divorce. I know it is hard, trust me I know, but you cant do it all and be with someone who will treat you like that.
2007-01-22 01:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your question? Cause it seems like it's you and him. He's not that into you and you're too into him. What part of his reaction to this don't you understand? If you want to get out of the relationship, don't ask us, make the decision yourself.
Come on, Woman Up, Dammit!!!
2007-01-22 01:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a life.
Grow up.
Find someone else.
Learn to be mature and in a mature relationship
2007-01-22 01:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i can sum this up in 2 words "leave him"
2007-01-22 02:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by fruit loopz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋