she is pregnant with my baby, but she is so loving and so sweet she wants me to be happy while we're apart, so she says it's okay if I want to "take a lady" for a night whenever I want. How does God feel about this, if the wife has given permission?
2007-01-22 01:47:30 · 20 answers · asked by manna eater 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Who cares how God feels about it any normal person would say it is WRONG!
2007-01-22 01:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnemarie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're wife's only saying that because she probably figures you'll cheat anyway, and you may have before. Only a pregnant woman with very low self-esteem would give permission for that, and do you think that maybe, somehow, you're the reason for her low self-esteem? She's pregnant, feeling unattractive and unloved, and you're only adding to it. It doesn't matter what God thinks (and you know the answer to that anyways), it only matters that you are not even wanting to be faithful to her, and if I were her, I'd pack up and you'd get to see your baby on visitation.
Use your five fingered friend and a porn if you have to, but don't give up your family for a night with a tramp.
And after an email I received, this is advice for expectant couples. Pregnancy is a fragile time as is, and shouldn't be complicated by affairs. It's only 9 months, and the risk of bringing back a disease to infect the child is too great to really risk it.
2007-01-22 01:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with God.
So don't try to justify this by going down this route. Thou shalt not commit adultery remember (unless you are a King with multiple wives and concubines, but lets not travel down the road of religious hypocrisy).
You are just excited by every husbands fantisy, the wife giving you permission to dip into some strange flesh occasionally. But beware your wife is testing you.
She is her most vulnerable stage and she wants to know if you really love her or not. This type of crazy thinking is normal for women, it's us men who just cannot understand it. But we sure do understand the consequences of getting it wrong.
If you really love her you can go without sex for a while, just masturbate, if it helps take some sexy provocative photos of her and use them.
Tell her that no woman can give her what she gives you, tell her that she means so much more than just sex to you and you are not willing to betray by having sex with anyone else, even tell her that you don't feel you could perform with another woman. Suck up to her big time, she (like all pregnant women is feeling ugly and insecure and she needs reassurance)
I am warning you that if you take her up on this offer you will lose out big time.
Believe me ask any idiot who belived his wife on this one.
2007-01-22 02:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of the little ones, which could be my significant explanation for even thinking having something greater together with her. If she had a relationship interior the previous with you and you married her and had little ones by using her. Dude you need to understand her. you already understand your answer. end lookin for reassurance in a team of strangers, who dont have jack vested on your existence. Do all you may as a guy to your little ones and for her a much off third you come 2d to those little ones. As for the intercourse is going. Your single back. i understand you like her yet she dont love you. Or yall could be making infant #3 now. Im in simple terms being actual guy... Dont choose to work out you get harm. back! Ive been there lived that... existence is to short. take a while which you would be able to take a seat down back and come back into existence slightly and detect a brilliant female who loves you and you like her. solid success
2016-12-12 17:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by sherburne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have given you permission out of her being softhearted and kind on the other hand you should not take advantage of that and should remain faithful and reciprocate her kindness not just by not engaging in sex with prostitutes at the expense of the possibility to get VD but also giving value to her kindness. God is happy with her kindness but He wouldn't be with your actions. Better to use self-stimulation if really needed.
2007-01-22 01:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by edcaimo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does God figure into it?
You and her are two consenting adults. What you two do with your sex lives, even including other consenting adults, is entirely your business. However, prostitution is illegal in most places in the USA, so, you might want to consider the legal ramifications of what you are considering.
Your child does not need to grow up with its father in the slammer 'cause the father couldn't keep the snake in the barn.
2007-01-22 01:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife said that - she might be having an affair.
Would you say that to your wife? if not, then she might be.
on the other hand she might really love you so much that she wants you to be happy. in that case it would be so wrong to cheat on her if she can love you that much.
Why are you apart? WHy aren't you in the same place. ARE YOU IN THE ARMY?
2007-01-22 01:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't marry god, you married your wife.
If it's ok with your wife, then it's none of god's business.
I would hope you allow your wife the same freedom when you're away.
2007-01-22 02:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time do people say to do what God has said not to, why is this so hard to understand. You can not truly rationalize sin.
2007-01-22 01:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by james p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only good thing about taking a prostitute is that there are no strings attached. You will not be emotionally involved. If she is fine, good for you!
2007-01-22 01:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still adultery. Please don't do this hurtful thing to your wife and your marriage. If you are truly a manna eater and working hard at being a good Christian, you know the answer to this question already.
2007-01-22 01:51:48 · answer #11 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋