me and my bf are engaged and were thinkin ov living in lpool well him movin here but his mum n sister keep saying i need to live wer its close to were he works but that means livin close to them n ther a bit too interferring surely when he has a car it wont matter were we live n wer he works??
2007-01-22 01:47:02 · 14 answers · asked by lil miss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I lived in the next street to my in laws and they were the cause of my marriage breakdown after 11 years!! If I were you i would buy a 1 way ticket to the furthest corner of the planet and never ever tell them where you are...its the only way- believe me!
2007-01-22 07:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by greenbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to live with my in laws for the first year of my marriage but that didn't work out. Now I live about 10 minutes away and so far, so good. But the thing with in laws is you got to be careful. Living close to them is okay, that doesn't mean you guys will see each other everyday. Just make sure they don't live across the street like on Raymond lol.
2007-01-22 02:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live across the street from my in-laws which hasnt been a problem. It depends on how your in-laws are. I guess the only problem I will have is if my brother-in-law and his family move back in with his parents because I cant stand them. So I can definitely see that being a problem. Plus if you have in-laws that are constantly watching your every move and get jealous if you spend more time with others than with them, they will be able to track you easier if you get closer to them. So I dont think I would actually CHOOSE to be closer unless there are some benefits (like if they help with the kids) or if you enjoy their company.
2007-01-22 01:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you all get on. You'd have to come to an arrangement about when they could come round etc., It'll be great if and when you have kids - you'll be able to get out more, they'll enjoy taking part in their upbringing and the kids will love having them near. Just make it clear from the start how often you want them round and of course they should tell you (It may not be convenient for THEM to have you too near either!) If you think they'll be too interfering, maybe live close but not TOO close!? What does your fiance think?
2007-01-22 03:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the in-laws and the situation. Some in-laws will butt out while others will stop at nothing to make you feel bad and control your relationship and the way you raise your future children. My boyfriend's family is awesome so that's not a problem for me but if you think that his family will interfere in your relationship or marriage then you should stand your grounds and move as far away from them as possible and when he needs to see them he can always go see them.
2007-01-22 18:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived by my in-laws and with my parents for a few months when we first got married (22 years ago ) and my advice to you is move away from both sides, and don't tell family when you are having a problem, If you both have only each other to depend on then you become closer, and learn to work out your problems yourselves.
We lived with my parents for 9 months when we first married and it was basically ok, but my parents were traditional and my husband was more modern and they didn't see eye to eye much, but they kept those opinions to themselves.
We moved to Florida for three years, and moved back next door to his mom and we had big differences of opinion about my friends, his friends and his family just coming in the house without knocking.
So we moved to Ohio 17 years ago and things were fine
2007-01-22 02:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live next door to my mother in-law and it isn't too bad. But she's not that interfering alhtough my bloke has to do "men's jobs" around the house. I know we couldn't live too near my Mum as she would be around all the time. If you're bloke's happy enough to live with you away feom his family, then surely that's his decision and not his Mum's!
2007-01-22 02:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 23:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it!
honestly i read the book 'why men lie and women cry' and there is this bit about mother in laws, the mother of your boyfriend will always see you as a threat, she will rarely accept the girl, she will think its ok for her son to do everything for her but begrudge anything he does for his girl.
this is true in my case, if i were u i would keep a safe distance.
2007-01-22 05:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by kiki_dees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they suggested that cuz they want to intrude into your life that way they can be there all the time they apparently dont like you and at least you dont live with them (let me tell ya it stinks)
just do what you and your bf agree on
2007-01-22 01:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by xjojox_wht_up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋