that I find Love and relationships really unnecessary. All that fencing between women and men are so tedious and expected. Even if the unexpected happens (like a superbly innovative guy), that is also expected.
My friends and family think I am just not over my past disappointments but the truth is, I am way over the past and that I dont even care about that part of my life anymore. Yes, I sure do reflect back on those times at time but that does not create any impact on my current principle. They wont believe me.
It's like... do I have to have someone?
2007-01-22 01:40:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anna D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe you. I am in about the same situation.........no one believes me when I say something along the same lines. I get the "its because the last guy cheated" or "its just because you get hurt" They don't realize that right NOW, in my life, emotionally and mentally I am actually in a good place with myself.....and happy. And I feel they should be happy for me.....that for the first time in a LONG time I am actually seriously happy.
No, you don't HAVE to have someone. No one has to have anything. Why settle for what you DONT want in life.......
Why be "content" like most people with what they have in life and in a partner........
IF someone is in you life it should be because you WANT them there........not because everyone feels you should HAVE them there.......
Good luck
2007-01-22 01:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by sapphirenplatinum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe you when you say that you "find Love and relationships really unnecessary." There couldn't be anything more far from the truth.
Without relationships, you wouldn't have your family , friends, the schmo at the bar, no one to talk to. All of these are relationships in some way shape or form, and all of them are important. Relationships are what makes the human experience day in and day out, without them, there would be nothing.
As for love... many people lack it. People who haven't found love, are probably unpleasant in some way, because they just don't know what they are missing out on. With love, you have to be VERY patient, and the crazy thing is, in relationships, people don't develop love at the same time. Causing much confusion, and dissappointment for the one not being loved.
I would guess that you are not over you past dissappoinments, by the simple fact that you "dont even care about that part of [your] life anymore," which is untrue due to the fact that you have put this post on the internet in the first place. You never forget about you past, but I look at it in the terms of "what have I learned about myself from that relationship." That way I always look FORWARD on those things that may have been unpleasant at onetime, but are now POSITIVE fuel for me to move forward in my growing.
And No you don't have to have someone "romantically," but once you find that someone, and that someone finds you, I garauntee that you will see life in a whole new light. The first thing you need to do is put down you resistance to the fact of the matter, and just be you, day in and day out.
Then again, these are just some simple statments from someone who only knows how HE deals with his life, and has absolutly nothing to do with yours. Hopefully you find something in the statments of mine that will help you move forward, and blossom.
2007-01-22 12:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by djkoolaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's completely up to you, hun. You just made a bunch of bad decisions and chose a bunch of jerks/idiots, and now you hold all men liable for your bad decisions. You'll change your opinion when the right guy comes along and sweeps you off your feet. Stop being so stuck up and typically feminist, and try being more open to the world around you. If you want to live your whole life alone, that's up to you, as well. Good luck!
2007-01-22 09:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say that now but for 8 yrs i was alone not lonley but alone
a few dates here and there but nothing else and you will come to a point where you wont feel complete there is something missing and when that happens you will know what your friends and family are talking about it will happen
and so will true love it just takes time
2007-01-22 09:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say that I am single and I enjoy it. I honestly don't understand the theory that you have to be with someone. I can do whatever I want and don't have to worry about the ups and downs of a relationship.
2007-01-22 09:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i dont agree with your current beliefs --- we do need someone in our lives to experience love and affection and all the other emotions that come even the pain --- while you may decide to be alone we are not constructed that way we want to communicate intimately with someone else --- enjoy and best wishes
2007-01-22 09:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and your what 12-13 ?
2007-01-22 09:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by HEY HOW ARE YA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't feel an emptiness or that something is missing in your life, I don't see why you HAVE to have someone.
2007-01-22 09:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noI dont believe that!!
if u do believe that..than what do you do with your life?
2007-01-22 09:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
NOT ME
2007-01-22 09:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by OMG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋