being out of high school, I have a new prespective. Why in high school do couples stay in relationships for years, break up, cheat, get back together and so on? High school is about fun and thats not fun. You're life shouldnt be so complicated at that age, agreed?
2007-01-22 01:33:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're in high school you're not going to have the same prespective and more then likely you're going to answer this and a few years from now going to think "why did I think I was so smart?" I'm 20 and already realized this.
2007-01-22 01:47:07 · update #1
agreed. I'm in high school and so far I haven't had to worry, cuz I haven't had a boyfriend, but i don't need to this young.
2007-01-22 01:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agreed. I just got out of college, and a lot of it's the same, but the people are more mature (in some respects). When I was in high school all I wanted was a bf. When I was 19 and in college I finally had one, and for the first year it was fine. It dragged on to 2 1/2 years, which was about a year and a half too long. Now I'm single again and wonder what was so great about having a bf. I mean, it was nice to have someone there for you, but he wasn't really the kind of bf that girls imagine--supportive, caring, trustworthy, sweet, etc. He was self-centered, egotistical, and sadly it took me 2 1/2 years to see that. I could have dated 2 guys that were in college that were better for me, but wanted to stay faithful to "my man." ugh. Go out, have fun, and be young. I'm 23 and still feel young and know that I have a lot of life to live.
At the same time, I wouldn't change the immature person I was in High School, or take away that relationship I had with "the dreaded ex," because all of those experiences helped me grow up and mature, and become who I am today.
2007-01-22 01:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. I was involved with a guy through junior high and the first years of high school, and we never ever went out, but we were very close that I got to thinking "we are really like boyfriend-girlfriend even though we don't call it that." We ended up breaking off our friendship because he just was not a good friend; never there for me, always blaming me for problems in the relationship. It really was exhausting, and it took me too long to get out of a bad relationship. I ended up saying, "can't i just be friends with who i'm friends with and not WORRY about the extra crap??" I never got involved romantically (if you can even call it that in high school) with boys, and never really had crushes on them, except once. its all too complicated. wait until you're past the awkward, growing-up high school stage to get involved. Teenage high school relationships almost never amount to anything, except pain. And the weird thing is, most people who never talk before suddenly "like" each other, go out, break up, and never speak again. How does that work? Weird.
2007-01-22 01:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% I started dating this guy when I was in the 10th grade and we kicked it off really well he was soooooooooooooo sweet to me but then after dating for 2 years we started to have problems and he cheated on me with a girl who was in the 9th grade when i was a senior and I had to put up with all that drama she told everyone that he was her man and not mine and see he didn't even go to that school me and him were the same age but he had dropped out of school before I meet him. Well any way I had alot of trouble with her and mine and his relationship hasn't been the same since. She is really in love with him and still tells everyone they are dating and that the baby she had is his and all. But n-e-ways High school shouldn't be about drama but about the friends and memories that u make. Even though I regret ever dating this guy I still have the fun memories with my friends and nothing can change that.
2007-01-22 01:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm in highschool and the way I look at it is teenagers want to be seen as mature. As much as it pains me to say this most of the time we want to be seen as mature and come off in the complete opposite way. We're watching all these shows on TV that are giving us what we intearperate as mature and seeing all these really shallow images given out make us think we have to be like that or we're not mature. So most teenagers just assume that being in a relationship will always give them that on top of the world sort of feeling. It's like we know that we're not going to end up with the person we're with in high school but the thought of it is nice. I honestly know how you feel about it though and I'm single and having a blast in high school. It seems so simple when your out of high school looking back but when you're in it its just not the same.
2007-01-22 01:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because in high school people are teenagers. Teenagers are ought to be guided in such things. They try experimenting relationships i've been in one. Why do they stay for years? because they create their own dreamland about relationships that aren't like their parents or other people that is easily toppled. Why they break up? because they are too young to be in one and they get bored with each other. why do they cheat? because they feel that their boyfriend or girlfriend is tying a noose around their neck. Why do they get back together? because they are fooled by their feelings that's why they try a second round.
2007-01-22 01:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not complicated . I'm in high school now and having long term boyfriends i think it prepares you later in life to be devoted to one guy. Your just getting to know the person better in a period of time. if you do decide to break up there is no hard feelings and they become long lasting friends.
2007-01-22 01:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by fruit loopz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a high school relationship that I wish I had pursued more. I regret it now. So I say live with the complication. Your young, you can handle it. You don't want to one day regret not asking that certain someone out.
2007-01-22 01:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yes i agree 100%
those years can never be replaced and to go through all that emotion takes the focus off whats really important, building friendships that can last a lifetime and getting an education.
2007-01-22 01:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your life shouldn't be that complicated, but it is only as complicated as you make it, besides i think that you it's better that you have experience with relationships while your young so when you get older you'll be prepared for anything.
2007-01-22 01:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋