how can i deal with body dysmorphia?

Question

i have realy servere insecurity about the way i look and am constantly comparing myself to other women.this completely takes over my life

Answer 1

The only way to deal with this is to get help. So start by talking to your doctor.

I'm giving you a link to show you that this problem isn't all that unusual, but the extent to which you display may be. I hope it make you feel a bit better, but it can't substitute for professional help.

Answer 2

Darling you need help to deal with this.
My son suffers with the same illness.It's such a complex thing.
Believe me I know what your going through and I know it won't matter what I tell you, you will still feel the same way when you look at yourself in the mirror,because you are ill ,you are seeing a distortion of what is really there.
There are some really good books relating to this i.e. The Broken Mirror by Katherine A Phillips.The Adonis Complex again Katherine A Phillips,Harrison Pope and Roberto Olivardia.Mirror Cracked all these deal with Body Dismorphia.
You can also type in Body Dismorphia on your web browser,there are lots of site that deal with this problem.
Good luck,and god bless you,my son has no life due to this condition,as he will not recognise that this is the main cause of his manic depression, it's a nightmare for all our family seeing his life wasted due to this condition.Don't waste yours seek help it is out there for the asking.

Answer 3

Body dysmorphia is a condition that can be overcome. And often boils down to self-esteem issues.
Go see your doctor - but don't expect too much from them, many are poorly lacking in the mental health understanding dept.
Alternatively I would suggest seeing a Clinical Hypnotherapist or EFT practitioner, these are people who have trained specifically with resolving emotional issues (neurotic disorders) .
I'm one myself - and I've helped past clients with the same problem - but no there's no overnight wonder pill - it takes hardwork from yourself and a real willingness to change and to even give others the benefit of the doubt!

www.general-hypnotherapy-register.com/

Answer 4

You poor soul, that must be horrible. The ideal situation would be for you to get over this and just not care anymore, but as that would be extremely difficult and would probably require professional help, how about changing your body in some way? Certain types of exercise can help to change your body shape and perhaps, if you worked hard to achieve a certain look that would suit your body type, it would give you something to be proud of. That way you could look at other women, but think that they hadn't put in half the effort that you had and hadn't got, I don't know, whatever it was you went for, well defined legs, shapely shoulders, whatever. Find a part of your body you can hone to perfection and be proud of that for starters. Then perhaps you'll start feeling better about the rest.
I usually start with my shoulders because they're a nice easy part to make well defined through using weights.
In the meantime, just look at all these women with supposedly better bodies, and think, yeah, nice bod, but I bet their thick as anything!!

Answer 5

Learn to love yourself. Every morning when you wake, look in the mirror and say over and over again to yourself out loud, "I am wonderful. I am a beautiful person. I have so much confidence. So many people love me. I have so much self worth. " Praise yourself at all times. E.g. after you've cleaned your teeth or when you've cooked a meal. Treat yourself to new clothes once a week, have your hair styled every so often. Go for a walk and when you meet people, make a point of greeting them with a smiley "hello". Believe me all these points will give you so much self belief that you are a unique lovely person. I like you already and I haven't even met you. Good luck!

Answer 6

I don't know of anyone that is 110% happy with their looks or body. And to compare yourself to millions of others that are also comparing themselves to others seems like a waste of time.
Each of us are unique in our own way and maybe you should take that as a compliment.
My own quirk? I always look at hairstyles and think to myself how great that person looks in that style or color, and then I look at my hair and wonder why I always get the inept hair stylists.

Answer 7

If you are really affected with body dysmorphia and look at mirror a lot because of that, you should see a psychiatrist. Good luck!

Answer 8

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/bodydysmorphia1.shtml
Try this site it may help you.