My daughter is 9 1/2 months old, and I want to have another baby. How do I convince my husband that now is the time to have another baby. I don't want our kids to be too far apart in age. I don't want them to be more than 2 years apart in age. So, now would be the time to try. What can I tell him to get him to agree to start trying to have another baby now.
2007-01-22 01:10:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
tell him that if you guys have your babies when you both are young enough to enjoy them then you can dote on your grandbabies in your old age instead of still raising them when you are fifty. that is what convinced my husband. i am pregnant with our fourth and last child. we are both so excited.
good luck. i hope you get your baby.
2007-01-22 01:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard one. I have a 10 month old and there's no way I would want another one any time soon. I couldn't imagine sharing myself with another baby. However, I also want him to have a sibling close in age but that doesn't outweigh my desire to give him all of my attention for a few years.
If your husband is against it, like mine would be, just assure him that you will be able to take on most of the work (if that's what you want to do and if that is what you think is holding him back) and make sure you make a plan for the finances.
Tell him how special it would be to see your first child to have a sibling close in age. Tell him how important it is to you and how good you think it will be for your first baby to have a sibling close in age. Tell him how they will be the best of friends and how they will look out for each other when they are older.
Life is so chaotic with my 10 month old around here, he still wakes up in the middle of the night, and my husband would know that having another one would be "too much" for this family right now. I would agree. If this is what you want, go for it! If you and your husband have a good relationship, then you will both be able to sit down and come to an agreement and an understanding of each other's reasons for wanting a baby or not wanting a baby.
I have a brother that is 2 years younger than me and a brother that is 4 years younger than me. My mom had her kids all within about 4 years. I can assure you that we are all the best of friends and my brothers and I have the CLOSEST, most awesome relationship there can be between siblings. We are adults now and we still have that playful, teasing sense of humor as we did when we were kids. When we are all in the same town together, it is like we are kids again, and it is like food for the soul. The only downside? My brothers are less than 2 years apart and there definitely is some sibling rivalry. There always has been and always will be! The middle child definitely has the middle child complex because my youngest brother came so soon after the oldest boy was born.
Having siblings close in age is a wonderful thing and sometimes I wish I had the desire to get pregnant again so he could have a sibling close in age, but my baby boy is very active, he gets up 1-2 times a night still, and I can't imagine taking care of my first baby and adding another baby to the mix....at least not now anyway! Maybe you are stronger than I! :) Good luck! :)
P.S. I also wanted to add that make sure that your husband gets lots of your attention, too. Mine sometimes feels a little bit shoved to the side since the baby came. I think if you show your husband lots of attention and a little alone time with him, it might soften him up a tad. My poor husband feels neglected at times because the baby keeps me so busy. Make sure that you have enough of you to go around...even to your husband!
2007-01-22 09:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to do the whole "quiverfull" thing (google it if you don't know what it is. But then I had my baby and got my period back at 6 months and realised that my baby deserved breastmilk until at least a year.
Not all women loose their milk when they get pregnant, but a fair amount do. So I am trying to wait until 1 year before I start trying. I say "trying to wait" because hubby wants another one already. Ah well my baby is almost 11 months *cry* where did the time go.
Best of luck! Be sure to take care of your body and make sure to replenish your nutrients before you get pregnant (with REAL food, not vitamins). I'm working on this now.
2007-01-22 09:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just sit down with your husband and tell him honestly how you feel. I am sure that when you tell him how you truly feel and that everything will be fine with having another one he will be alright with it as well. I am sure that once you start to talk to him and tell him how you feel he will open up to you as well and you can resolve this issue. Good luck to the two of you.
2007-01-22 09:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by ws_422 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still have time to 2 years. Take a break, pay some attention to your husband too. It is not a wise move to force him so soon into new parenthood, you might get another baby but it might happen that your husband gets tired of all potties, napkins, bottles, ... so, don't rush!
2007-01-22 09:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sit him down and tell him what you have just told us my kids are 4 years apart and they get on just fine good luck
2007-01-22 09:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your body's sake wait the full two years. My sisters and I were barely a year apart and I kinda didnt like it we fought a lot.
2007-01-22 09:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by b 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋