do you say what you really mean?

Question

one thing that takes me aback and holds my interest is someone who is as honest and open as i am and just says what they mean whether its good or bad...whether i agree with them or not...

so many people seem to dither around ...working themselves into a frenzy figuring out the best way to say things and end up trying so hard they fall flat on their faces......we have all these wonderful feelings and a million or more beautiful ways of expressing them...and yes there is of course room for that too...but why when it really comes down to business can't people just say what they mean....absolute honesty makes me catch my breath in a real nice way...because its so rare...so do you say what you mean?

chaskfraz...lmao...you got me pinned...fellow saggitarian right here,lol...;0)

and its not that i dont care...it just doesnt occur to sy anything but what i feel...;0)

choochoo...well you might do that but please dont assume that i do...and then advise me accordingly...thats odd...;0)

Answer 1

I don't think that anyone should do otherwise ... I always say what i think... and not just (like most people) because you are asking a leading question...


by the way .. good question... (well thats what i think anyway)

Dr bad
Now im off to look for a bad one ... so I can tell u what I think about that too ;-))

Answer 2

i always try to say what i mean especially when it comes to my relationship and the people close to me. It will hurt them at first if they dont like it but the earlier the better because if you try to dither around, they will eventually know about it and they will be hurt even more so i dont want that to happen.

But i believe sometimes people need to be diplomatic when they say some things, i am not saying they should lie or dither around, but when telling some peple about something, you need to find the best possible way to convey the message clearly at the same time reducing the impact of hurt that will occur to that person after receiving that message.
For example, if i see someone's girlfriend in a compromising position with another man, i cant just go to the boyfriend and tell him like i am telling him good news, but i will also make sure that he gets the message clearly!

Answer 3

Always, without exception. I am quite famous amongst my friends and work collegues for it. I am always the one they ask advice from, because I say what I think, not just nod and smile in the right places.
At work, in meetings, there is now a special part at the end where I get to argue with everyone else. It used to be called 'any other business', but now they all just look at me and wait for the out pourings. A few times, there hasn't been anything though, and the look of relief on everyone's faces cheers me up every time I think of it.
I don't go out of my way to do this, it just happens. My dad brought me up with three lessons, they are 1-never ever ever give a sh it what anyone else thinks.2-Say what you actually mean and feel, and then people have no excuse to treat you in a way you don't like.3-Lie rarely, but do it well.
My dad is cool.I have modified these slightly for my own daughter, but in essence, I think these are good rules to be brought up by.

Answer 4

I always say exactly what I mean, it's just that women seem to speak a totally different language or read something else into what I'm saying. Lots of people try to spare the other feelings or not say the wrong thing so much that they do what you've described. It's natural. Some are brutally honest or just don't care. I find most Sagittarians are like this. Me mum was a Sag.

Answer 5

Sometimes, it depends on the situation and the person. With my husband, mom, and best friend, I always tell the complete truth, thought it might not be what they want to hear.
Other times, such as a job interview or in a class at school, I might exaggerate or simplify my honest answer in order to prevent controntations, get the position, or to avoid offending others.
Most of the time it is refreshing to tell the truth, other times there is that awkward silence after admitting you don't like a friend's new hairstyle or latest boyfriend. Know what I mean.......

Answer 6

i have to disagree. Y say wot u mean wen it may hurt someone u care about. If someone looked really fat and terrible in some new outfit they were trying on wud u really tell them they looked like a beached whale?? I hope not! I wud say they looked ok but perhaps maybe trying a different outfit that shows off their best features.... isn't that better than hurting their feelings

There are some things best left unsaid!!
How can u say that honesty is the best policy?

Answer 7

Dose anyone say what they really mean?

Your ego consists of two 'sides'.the first side is one of passion, this is what you may feel or think at any given moment. The second is of reason. this is where you consciously remember past events, your moral convictions, your particular ethical system etc etc.

What people say first is normally influenced by their pasions. say, someone's on trial. you might hate what they have done, calling them, white trash, tipical paki, stupid ****** etc etc. But when you have calmed down and had time to reason, you know what you have said is suppose to cause offence, you do not fully believe what you have said. after reasoning, in the above exmple, you are quite aware that someones race will not dictate their crime.

This goes for many subjects and topics.

people that have the controll to reason with themselves in times of hightened passion will say what they really mean. I, and everyone else should strive to to be this type of person.

Answer 8

I find myself just saying what I think almost all the time and feel great after wards as I have not spent minutes, hours or even days worrying how I am going to say something some times it offends but most of the time people respect me for who I am

Answer 9

nine times out of ten I say what I mean and mean what I say. If it's a bad thing about someone else I might just leave it or say it in the nicest way possible, kinda between the lines, y'know? If it's a difficult thing about myself I usually wait untill I understand it well enough before trying to express it. Does that answer your question?!? : )

Answer 10

I always say, don't ask me unless you want to know the truth about the way I feel.
I've always said what I thought,and most of my friends are the same,we don't ***** foot around. I'm Scorpio,you know the one with the sting in the tail.Having said that I never go out to deliberately hurt someone, just wouldn't let someone go out looking a mess,I'd have to tell them.