If a guy workmate whom you're really pal with who's a player with the ladies suddenly started to show feelings for you and stopped alot of his flirting with the other girls what has happened here?
2007-01-22 01:02:40 · 20 answers · asked by djat20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's hard to say what this guy is up to. i sure and the hell wouldn't just jump into a relationship with him. keep him on his toes for a while, a good while, if he's really that into you, you're letting him know too that you're not going to be played. sometimes it takes just one person to change someones views on life, maybe he sees something in you that he what's a good shot at. but don't fall to easy. Have fun!!!
2007-01-22 01:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by dthsmx5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting that you said he is showing his feelings. You'll have to go with your "gut" on this. Is he really showing his feelings or is he scamming? It's hard to say.
I do believe that a playa can suddenly find qualities in a woman that make him "grow up" emotionally. That may be the case with you. The fact that he stopped flirting is interesting and may be a positive sign. Did he do that when he was playing other girls? If not than you are "special."
Here's what I would do. Go someplace and talk with him. Be honest and show your feelings assuming you like him: "I'm afraid to get involved with you because you are such a player. I don't want to get hurt." Judge his reply to that. If he gives you, "Oh Baby, I'm so changed. I'm for you, blah, blah, blah." Then that is bullshit. If he cares for you he will "understand" your feelings and not be defensive or try to "change your mind." talking crap.
2007-01-22 01:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have fallen for you or you just may be a bit of a challenge to him and he just wants to see if he can get in your pants If I were you I would proceed with caution if you really like this guy. You could go out with him but don't have sex with him anytime in the near future.Get to know him better away from work and meet his friends Take your time and protect your heart. If he is really interested in you as a person and not another sexual conquest then he will understand and be willing to show you that he has changed and will wait until you are satisfied that he is for real. It could be he is tired of meaningless sex and wants to settle down with a worthwhile relationship. I do believe people can change but as I said before be careful that he is not just wanting to play you .Good luck I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-22 01:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has possibly found someone he's really interested in. Just keep in mind that he's a player so he knows how to work it with the girls. Since you are already friends, give him a chance. I believe that people can change when they find a special person.
2007-01-22 01:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already had the other girls and know what they are like, but now he wants to try something new. He is going to put most of his attention on you until he gets you. When he is in other public places not around you, he is still playing his game. Don't fall for it. He is probably a pro by now.That's probably how he got the other girls, by making them think that he was only interested in them until he slept with them. You should not take any chances with him.
2007-01-22 01:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently he likes you but if i was you i wouldn't make a move i always keep i mind that the player would be always a player ... every person goes back to who he is .. for example the person who has been smoking for 2 years quits .. but in like 5 years after something really bad happens he goes back to smoking ... i guess you got my point ... its up to you but just take care to your steps in life
2007-01-22 01:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to gain your total trust because he knows that you know he's a player. Trust me, he's just trying to play you. If you don't believe me, fall for him and I promise you'll be writing a question about why guys play girls and cheat next week.
2007-01-22 01:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you are interested in him and that he has a chance of hooking up with you. Beware!!! If he is really interested in you he will do what is right, but if all he wants is to do the horizontal mombo then you are going to get hurt and feel really stupid.
2007-01-22 01:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either really wanting to change so he can have a meaningful relationship (with you he hopes). And wants there to be a future!
OR
He is GOOD at what he does and is playing you to get in your pants! Be careful, only you can decide if he is serious or playing you!
2007-01-22 01:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you have something extra special about you that he might be interested in enough to give up his Player status.
2007-01-22 01:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋