hiya me and my bf has getting engaged and i was just thinking when we do get married would i trust him to have a stag party coz i no i wud get really jealous if they was strippers dancing on him and stuff - but i no thats what happens on them and i wud be scared that he mite end up in bed with sum1 ??? is it just me bein paranoid !!! but i wud hate it !!
2007-01-22 01:01:01 · 16 answers · asked by sara2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I NO I SHOULD TRUST HIM BUT NOT SURE IF I COULD BUT I DO REALLY LOVE HIM !!
2007-01-22 01:05:32 · update #1
No you aren't being paranoid I would be the same way, but if he has never cheated on you before then why would he do it the night before the most important day of his life.
2007-01-22 01:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Its his last chance to be single and he needs to "get it out of his system". If he loves you he won't do anything more that get a lap dance and don't be suprised if he doens't even do that. Just remember he's yours forever after the wedding. I'm guessing you guys are kind of young. I got married at 18 and have been faithful for 16 years. 2 things will kill a relationship. One is money problems and the other is trust. If you're not sure you can trust him, don't rush this marriage cause it will be doomed to failure. Think about this though, would you rather him see a few strippers now or wait about 5 years and start thinking about all the things he "didn't get to do" while he was single and get that wondering eye. Let him get it out of his system now while he can and love you even more for trusting him.
2007-01-22 09:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my bf have been saving for a wedding and are yet to set a date but I decided I am gunna book him a stripper in kahoots with his mates. it's not the thought of her being all over him but the thought of him doing it without me knowing that would pee me off. If he has agreed to marry you things must be ok between you. Whos to say he even wants a stripper. And if he does, why can't you hve one? You gotta learn to trust him, if he was gonna get up to no good he would do it anyway regardless of her being a stripper, if anything that should put him off right? Good luck anyway xx
2007-01-22 09:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he even want to have one?
When I get married, I don't plan on having a bachelor party with strippers. I just plan on going out for some drinks with the guys.
2007-01-22 09:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by uabsupercow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate it too! Hopefully you can trust him but since he's a guy you never know. So just tell him how you feel and you don't want him to have any strippers. If he cares enough for you he'll respect your request.
2007-01-22 09:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man is a cheater he will find away to cheat regardless of what situation he is in.
You have to trust him until he gives you a reason not to trust him.
stop worrying about it, it will wreck your relationship worry about it IF it happens.
If he cheats he will get caught out eventually then you can hold your head up and walk away, if you dont find out then (sorry to say this but) all the better.
Trust you partner and dont let this bother you good luck xx
2007-01-22 09:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant trust your guy to not sleep with the stripper than you shouldnt be marrying him in the first place. strippers and bachelor partys are traditional and you know its going to happen why not get one for yourself. dont worrybe happy
2007-01-22 09:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by louisastar2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to let him have his stag do.
Just make it plain to his mates that they have got
to keep a special eye on him. Tell him of your worries.
I would hate it too. You only just got engaged so if its gonna be
a short engagement I can see why your panicking. If its
a couple of years - give yrself a break!
2007-01-22 09:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same with my boyfriend, i had to be taken out a room cryin my eyes out at his 21st birthday cos he had a stripper, even now the thought upsets me but what you need to keep telling yourself, is she is only there cos she is getting paid to be there, not because she likes him, your fiance loves YOU, he chose to spend the rest of his life with YOU, and at the end of the day it will be YOU he comes home too. so plz do not do what i did cos i felt awful that id ruined his big birthday.
good luck x x
2007-01-22 09:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with gblue52...no trust, no relationship. You either feel totally ok with him going to a stag do or you don't...
2007-01-22 09:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Doodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋