Look, this guy is my best friend. Today he made a move on me... He asks me "you like my perfume?" so i lean in to smell it, and he kisses me. No one was there except for me and him. So he says "do you wanna go all the way"... And I just ran and left because he's my best friend... Now what do I say to him tomorrow? I don't wanna go with him all the way... I'm only 16... Please Hel im in deep dodo!!
2007-01-22 00:54:14 · 17 answers · asked by So_Seductive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is your best friend...you need to be straight with him. I would apologize for running away...but that he had totally taken you by surprise! Please don't tell him that he violated you...you more than likely have been flirting with him, since he is your best friend and he is...male.
You would only mention violation if you had been straight forward and specifically told him that you do not want a 'relationship' with him, at all.
If you don't want to be girlfriend/boyfriend...you must tell him so. If it is only because of the issue of physical intimacy...you must tell him so. You must be straight with him and tell him why. You may possibly have a rift in your friendship with him for a while, since he may view relationships a little different. But, if he is a true friend...he will understand why. He may feel rejected, and rightfully so...since, best friends usually make good partners. If you make it plain that you don't want to be girlfriend/boyfriend with him...you mustn't have a double standard either...and except the fact that he may also have another that he will be close to, if not closer that you and he. Good luck. If you can, text or call him and tell him that you are sorry that you booked on him...but that you will explain things later when you see him face to face. I don't recommend explaining this over the phone.
You can discuss the possibility of a non-physically intimate relationship...but, you have to understand that eventually that the topic will be tabled again.
Protect yourself, by all means. As I'm sure you are well aware, abstinance is the best contraceptive. And, where love and romance is concerned, there are lots of ways to show affection other than physical intimacy.
2007-01-22 01:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not like to hear this but you're going to have a take a firm hand with this guy. I know he is your best friend but you're going to have to tell him exactly where you stand on this. If he's really a friend he'll drop it and apologise. If he's like alot of guys, he'll say he understands and say he's sorry, then when he thinks you've forgotten, he'll try another move on you. Sorry to say it but most guys are pigs and you may be better off getting some seperation here. Good luck with this one. Hopefully he's a good dude and can be "just friends" but often thats not the case in the teen years.
2007-01-22 09:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start backing off from him. If he's acting like that, then he's no best friend. Sounds like he was using that angle to get close to you so he could make a move. From now on, only be around him when you have someone else with you. Be honest and tell him that you only see him as a best friend, not as a boyfriend, and certainly not as a lover. You dont have to give in just because someone like him wants you to. Stay strong and if he gives you alot of problems, tell your parents.
2007-01-22 09:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Z. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously feels more for you than you do for him or he just wants sex and you are an easy target because of your friendship. However, thats not a good reason to have sex with him. If YOU don't feel comfortable, then don't!
Just tell him that you like him, but not "that way" and you are not ready for sex. Also think about possible consequences such as PREGNANCY & STD's!! Stand your ground & don't fall for any ploys. When time has passed & you look back on this, you'll be glad you did.
2007-01-22 09:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Justified 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your not in Deep anything....he is just a teenage guy who obviously is having hormone issues. Just be upfront and honest with him. Explain that you aren't ready for that and you just like him as a friend. tell him that you want to be friends with him but he needs to cool it with the aggressive male behavior or else you won't talk to him anymore. Sometimes you need to be tough on em...but im sure it will work out for the best.
2007-01-22 08:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone did something similar to me when I was your age. Here's what you do. Tomorrow you walk straight up to him and say, Yesterday you violated me. I thought we were best friends but a best friend would not make a cheap move like that. I am a classy lady and to ask me what you asked me..., then I would slap him hard in the face. And if others see it, so what, tell them what he did to you the previous day. Then he we feel like $hit!
2007-01-22 09:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be ashamed of what you did! Running was the right thing to do. I would tell him that your disapointed in him because you are only friends right now. Plus 16 is pretty young. Tell him that if he can't see you as being just a friend for right now then it's not worth it anyways.
2007-01-22 08:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Adriane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes after ur pants drop him,
ask him if he wants to be honest and serious
lean in for ur own kiss
just cuz ur best freinds DONT let that get in the way some time's ur ment to go further than just freinds (like me and my girl)
find out if hes after panties or patience, if hes sweet and secure and honest ull want him right?
if he's a droolin dog (well enough women turned me down)
:P
have fun
2007-01-22 08:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by sionsolo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh it off. Just make light and funny about it. What weird things we will do sometimes. Be sure to tell him how you really feel. Do you want him as a bf, but just aren't ready to go all the way? Tell him what it is.
2007-01-22 08:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK calm down.Now what you need to do is tell him you DON'T want to do that.Tell him you just want to be friends.If he still won't leave you alone the what you'll have to do is avoid him or tell him to go away. if it becomes serious you might want to have friends around at times your with him.
2007-01-22 09:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Animal.Lover.Brooke.101.Rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋