My older two kids (a 6 year old girl and an 8 year old boy) are just becoming interested in sleepovers with their friends. At their current ages it seems like no big deal, but my husband and I disagree on whether, in a couple of years, it should be permissable for both of them to be allowed to have a friend over on the same night. We're not talking about two massive slumber parties occurring simultaneously here - just one buddy each. But obviously that results in non-related minors with hormones that we will be responsible for monitoring.
Any opinions? And if you think simultaneous sleepovers would be inappropriate, at what ages do you think we should start prohibiting them?
2007-01-22 00:53:11 · 13 answers · asked by Kris 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I don't see it being a problem at all. When one kid has a friend over, the other will be left out if he also doesn't have a friend over.
If they're all hanging out together then your kids will end up being friends as well as sibiling's and that's a wonderful thing.
I'd make sure the other parents knew and I'd keep them seperated at night.
2007-01-22 04:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother & I are the same age apart as your children & this was never a problem growing up. We were both allowed to have a friend sleepover whenever and, looking back, as we got older we wanted less to do with each other's friends so there was never any problems. Me & my girlfriend would hang out, say in the living room (and sleep there, too), while my brother & his friend would be else where in the house doing their own thing.
2007-01-22 01:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd probably avoid it if I were you and go for separate nights. As a parent, I don't think I'd allow my daughters to go to a sleepover where there were going to be more (and older!) boys in the house. Not that anything would happen, but I'd just feel safer about it. I'd start limiting it within the next year or so just to be safe. It's amazing how fast kids mature these days!
2007-01-22 01:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by poohs_house67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age no big deal....I have twins boy and girl, they are 13....now only one can have a friend over at a time...neither seem that interest in the opposite sex yet...Thank god! I don't know what I'll do when they are...probably allow one to have a friend while the other is some where else spending the night. oh and I'll pray! Good Luck!
2007-01-22 01:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow yea I agree with the one above me. I started having sleepovers when I was 8-9 It is no big deal really.... Yea my brother has some of his friends comeover saturday night (like 2-3 friends) Then I can invite one of my friends....... We are all fine well plus I am 13 and my bro is 15 and his friends are 14-15 ish They are ugly!! :) LOL ......HTH!
2007-01-22 01:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother has two children a boy and a girl that are 12 and 13 and he rotates weekends with them so every other weekend they can have a friend over but never the same time good luck
2007-01-22 00:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by BlessedMommyof3.. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well seeing as the boy is older he will probably be more protective of the little girl.
my brother would never let me get involved with any of his friends. he knew they werent good for me.
but maybe if there are that kind of hormones around they will be too old for sleep-overs anyway. boys usually grow out of it before girls do.
2007-01-22 03:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can as long as both sets of parents know what will be taking place. And perhaps separate them. girls use TV in living room and boys in tha basement (or where ever another tv is) watch their own movies, etc pizza. You won't have issues with this if you did it now. When they are older you will..LOL.
2007-01-22 00:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sisters and brothers generally will do the monitoring only because they wouldn't want their friend subjected to the horrors of their terrible sibling. I'm sure you can remember either you or your friends brother/sister screaming to get out of their room.
2007-01-22 02:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by MmEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure itll be fine...my son stays in his room with his friend and my daughter stays in her room with her friend at this point kids of the opposite sex still have cooties!!! and when it comes to parties later they will still stay seperate with there friends give them a chance and try it IF it becomes an issue dont do it again.
2007-01-22 00:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by jdmom99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋