is this a bad idea?

Question

my boyfriend is moving to wisbech ive been with him for a month now he wants me to move in with him in the next 4 months should i move with him or not my perants dont like the idea they want me to wait 3 years yet

Answer 1

A month is not long enough to say that you know him well enough. You should wait because a lot changes when you move in with someone, especially if you have not known them for long. You should wait at least a year before you make a take a big step like this.

Answer 2

3 years wait sound like a long time. However if you've only known him a month that is way too short to be moving across the country.

If the relationship is any good it'll survive a few months of long distance, then if it's still good you can consider moving to Wisbech.
However, make sure that when you move you have some indpendence from your boyfriend (so you don't rely completely on him), always keep some savings in a bank account so you can leave should you want to.

Answer 3

Well it depends on a couple of things really are you very happy do you feel like he is the one for you ?

How far away from Wisbech do you currentley live would it be to far to continue the relationship without causing exceptional pressure.

Why do your parents want you to wait so long only you will know when its right.

How old are you ?

Why does he want you to move in so soon is he possesive ?

Answer 4

Could you tell him you do like the idea but you'd rather discuss it in 4 months when you've both had a bit more time? That way you've got a bit more time on your hands to see how things go, and you're kind of compromising with your parents by showing you can be mature and think about things rather than just jumping straight in without thinking!

3 years is a bit extreme, unless your under 18 - then I'd agree.

Good luck!

Answer 5

after a month - defo Im with your parents on this one! Maybe not for 3 years - but at least another good few months.
Living with someone is hard enough when you know them very well - to up and leave everything after a month is pure crazy! Why dont you do and stay for weekends and holidays - then if you're sure its the real thing - move up afterwards.
xx

Answer 6

Moving in with someone you've only known for such a short time is too soon, you don't yet know whether your relationship will be a long-term thing. I suggest you stay at your parents and continue to keep in touch with your boyfriend after he moves. You'll either both make the effort to continue to see each other, or your relationship will end.

Answer 7

well parents dont want you go for another 3 yrs tells me your younge.it could go either way its only been a month let him go set things up and if you still fell like you want to go. go you can always come back and lifes about no regrets. but dont base your life on a realationship exspecially if your young. and its only been 1 mth. more important is to stay focus are you still in school. boyfriends will be there your whole life but you only get one chance at school and being somebody dont lose that chance just b/c of a boy that you will regret. wait a little longer see how you two do being apart for alittle while.

Answer 8

I say wait until you know each other better.You've only been together for a month. That's not long enough to really know what a person is like. You are better off to stay where you are and then go visit him when you can. Don't rush into this relationship.

Answer 9

Id wait, a month isnt long enough to make a life changing decision. If the relationship is meant to last it will survive the move; you could always go for weekends?

Answer 10

This is a bad idea because you've only been dating him for a month and you guys probably don't know each other as well as you think you do, besides what if you two have a big argument and he tries to put you out of his house, so if I were you I would think twice.