Sounds like she's trying to make you feel guilty. I don't believe any relationship is time wasted as you should learn something from every one. Even the bad ones!
2007-01-22 00:42:41
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answered by stevies_girl2 2
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Tell her 'Thats Life'. Was she forced into a relationship with you?
Some people go through life without ever having a partner. At
the same time I have a friend who has been married for thirty years and only the first five were happy for them. They have
no children but are just stuck in a loveless marriage. Each one
frightened to make the first move to leave. Your ex is only 21
and got years ahead of her. She is wasting your time now by
making you feel guilty.
2007-01-22 00:56:19
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answered by Minxy 5
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Unfortunately, there are a lot of young females with this exact same mindset. They want to get married, be a mom, and that's the only thing that they want. Society allows us to still believe that that is the pre-disposed genetic make-up of woman.... get married, have kids. I don't think that you should be angry with her... you knew that's what she wanted. Just move on... you can't fault a girl for knowing what she wants out of life, even if it's not the same thing that you wanted. Don't look down on the girl, she didn't do anything wrong and neither did you. You guys just wanted different things in life and that's okay.
2007-01-22 00:59:50
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answered by surelycoolgirl 5
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Take heart, dear. You had to move on and you didnt want to be tied down by an immature mother. You know you did the right thing. I bet she still doesnt know what she wants in life. She's just throwing empty guilt bags to you so that you can think that she's the best thing that ever happenend to you. And you would be a fool to believe that. Ignore her and her immature yapping. She's 21 for Christ's sake. I think you are too young to be having babies instead of exploring life and the world in general.
2007-01-22 00:48:18
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answered by Nile Queen 3
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i do no longer doubt he misses you and needs you returned, the question is, does he want you, or does he want a doormat to mistreat returned? right here is the section that makes me skeptical: He retorts to you some thing to the effect which you weren't harmless, the two. That sounds like a explanation, and rationalizations are for people who've yet to truly face the place they have been incorrect in a given subject. Now, if I had made a mistake and grow to be attempting to get somebody to furnish me yet another danger, which would be some thing i could on no account say. rather, i could be doing regardless of i could desire to to get them to work out that I had replaced for the greater powerful. Is that the experience you're getting from this guy now? i'm helpful you have heard the expression, "fool me as quickly as, shame on you. fool me two times, shame on me." it extremely is a few very genuine and appropriate stuff. proceed listening to your instincts. they gained't lead you off beam.
2016-11-26 01:48:31
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answered by ? 4
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This is a breakup, and breakups are never nice. Women are colder and more severe, because she wants to make you hurt as much as she does because of the breakup. For the first three-four months after the breakup, ignore everything harsh she says, as well as any of her attempts to get you back. Women are emotional things, men are rational things. In these four months, she'll be deciding things according to her feelings, and you should ignore and evade all her attempts at getting you back or making you feel bad, because she's reacting on impulses. So, just ignore what she's saying, as she's just trying to hurt you.
2007-01-22 00:45:02
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answered by Anonymous
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Despite how hard I worked on my marriage my Ex wife was always complaining that she wanted more and more. When she left she gave me a drawn out speech about how her life was wasted etc. etc. she ended it with the question "What did I get out of it". Other than the obvious statement that we got two daughters out of the marriage I told her "You got out of it what you put into it". She didn't have anywhere else to go after that and she left with her dragon tail between her legs.
2007-01-22 00:46:42
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answered by cobra2140 3
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i don't know if she's saying it to make her jealous, but yes, she is responsible for herself. what she's saying is a load of cr*p: she makes her own decisions, and if she feels that time was wasted, then she wasted it because it's hers, not yours. nowadays, poeple get married a lot later and have kids a lot later too, and its not unusual at all to find thirty or even thirty-five year olds who haven't settled down yet...in fact, it's rarer to find a married twenty-three year old. so don't listen to the rubbish she's feeding you, get on with your life and ignore her. hope it goes well.
2007-01-22 03:17:57
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answered by lovely_yellow_sky 1
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It isn't your fault. Most guys would have done the same thing. She is just trying to manipulate you into staying with her.
Nothing to feel guilty about. I am sure that you will be laughing about it in a few months.
2007-01-22 00:43:37
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answered by Jo 6
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We are all responsible for our lives and if we think we are wasting it then we should take responsibility for our own actions and not blame someone else.
For example, I take full responsibility for wasting my own life on someone for the last 6 months, its not his fault, its my own. I got it wrong though and grateful that I'm not going to waste the next 6 months of my life.
Your lady friend needs to grow up and start taking accountability for her own actions.
2007-01-22 01:30:31
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answered by Hobnobs 3
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