I am now 44 yrs old, I am 7 months pregnant, how can I confess to my daughter that the child is her husband?

Answer 1

I have never walked in your shoes before, but I'm going to give this my best shot. I think this is what I would do:

Pray really hard, every day, over the next few days about this. Only the Good Lord knows what a person in your shoes should do. But He does know. And He will help you. Remember that Jesus didn't condemn people who got into trouble by breaking rules... he more often condemned the "religious" types who acted as if they were perfect. No one is perfect. He would say, "you are forgiven -- go and sin no more" even to someone caught in bed with another woman's husband. He would tell the madding crowd "let him who is without sin, cast the first stone" and the crowd would dissipate quickly.

Talk with the daughter's husband privately before you do anything, and come to some sort of agreement between him, you, and the Lord, about the route you should follow.

There are a couple of routes you can go, and only the Lord will know which is the right way:

(1) Agree to not tell anyone what happened. You get away from the daughter's husband, even if that means you move far away, even from the daughter too. He will be a continual source of sexual temptation in your life, and he is the husband of your daughter.

(2) Agree to not tell anyone what happened. You stay where you are, and have the daughter's husband suggest they move far away from you.

(3) Agree to not tell anyone what happened. Everyone stay put. Resolve not to sleep with the man any more. Make him resolve not to sleep with you any more. He is your daughter's husband.

(4) Agree to tell the daughter. But wait until after you have the baby to tell her. Going through the trauma of telling her before the baby is born could result in complications to your pregnancy. Regardless of how awry things have gone here... a baby's life is at stake, and this baby is valuable to the Lord too. Be certain though, that when/if you finally do tell your daughter the truth... you tell her WHY you waited so long.

When/if you do tell her, I would suggest you going to a Christian family counselor first, for a few sessions, and just talk through what you're feeling. If the guy is willing to go to counseling, that might be a good thing too. Many times, a professional counselor will be able to help you get to the bottom of your own true feelings, and help you figure out a way to accomplish such a hard task of telling this daughter what you've done and begging her forgiveness.

Personally, I would always want to err on the side of truth. However, in some cases, especially like this one... it is hard to know the proper route to follow. Trust God, and no matter what happens in the interim time, know that He will guide you if you turn to Him, and He will work this out perfectly in the LONG run, if you commit this all to Him.

You and your family will be in my prayers. All my best.

Answer 2

Maybe I don't get it, but how can your current fetus be the husband of your daughter? Is this a case of a marriage arranged quite early?

Or are you saying that your current pregnancy is the result of a sexual union between you and the husband of your daughter? If that's the case, then it seems you have a peck of trouble on your hands. If you choose not to tell, you'll always have the weight hanging over your head that she will somehow find out and ruin your relationship. If you do tell, you might be estranged for the remainder of your life.

In the words of one great martial artist: "Best way to not get hit is to not be there."

All of the choices we make have consequences; some good, some bad. Dealing with them with dignity is the challenge we all face.

Answer 3

You should be ashamed of yourself! You are a despicable, disgusting, immoral woman whose screws have gone loose. How could you sleep with your daughter's husband? If I were your daughter, I would surely hate you! Maybe in time I would learn to forgive you but the shame you brought to the whole family would never be forgotten! I suggest you stay away and go somewhere else. If your daughter found out what you and her husband did, I am sure, she would be furious. You better stay away and let time erase this disgusting act of yours. And better yet, keep that disgusting secret forever for your family's honor's sake.

Answer 4

I think it is a joke. Never heard of such a thing. You really are in deep trouble. First of all have you spoken to your daughter's husband and what are his reaction to it. You need to build courage and take the whole responsibility . Either way your daughter's husband also needs to give an explanation to your daughter. You need to explain the whole thing on her face as she will not belive if you mail or write anything on a piece of paper as I am still not convinced.

Answer 5

I dont think this is real.. but if it is. you are a bloody W.H.O.R.E. You slept with your daughters husband? what kindof a mother are you/? I fel sorry for your daughter. Poor girl. Having you as a mom. Imagine, living the rest of your life looking at a half sibling that was the result of your slu.tty mother and your husbands one night stand. *If it was an affair then God help me* Or God help you. You need all the help you can get woman.

Answer 6

tell her that you didn't want to see her go through the pain of pregnancy......is that what you wanted to hear? get a life woman. you are what is wrong with the world today. you do not know where your place is in this life. you were not taught morals by your parents, nor did you notice the ones taking place around you. be a woman and tell your daughter the truth. i know you are ashamed of yourself now. and now your daughter is pulled into your filth. she didn't deserve this in her life.. she needs a caring loving, nurturing mother that will help her out. what does she have to look forward to the rest of her life? to look at a kid that belonged to an ex boyfriend once. and i say ex, because i feel she has a little sense to get out of this dreadful relationship. you can't fix your problem unless you believe in abortion. i don't.

Answer 7

first of all how could you do something like that to our child. second tell her the truth. If you care anything about her you wouldn't want her to stay with this guy if he can sleep with his own mother-in-law then i am sure that you are not he only one that he is out there with what if he brings home some STD to her. she will hopefully get rid of him, but the best thing is that you don't become more involved with this joke of a man.come clean to her sit and talk she is no longer a child and she is going to be very upset give her time after you tell her don't try to smother her to get her to forgive you it will take a long time and lots of counseling. TELL THE TRUTH.

Answer 8

How can an unborn child by your daughter's husband? Are you saying it's his child? If that's the case you have incredibly bad judgement, neither does your son in law, and your daughter has every cause to hate you both.

Answer 9

Sounds like a Jerry Springer show to me. I really hope this question is not real you and your daughter's husband really needs help. How could you do this to your daughter is not right you need to go to church and read your Bible if you have one and get right with the Lord!

Answer 10

How the hell could you sleep with your daughters husband????? That's just sick and wrong!! Didn't it kinda make you feel like you were sleeping with your son? You need some SERIOUS help. I guess the only way to tell her is to come right out and do it. Hopefully she's smart enough to kick him and you out of her life after this.