I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?
2007-01-22 00:17:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are serious on moving on in your life. Jus ignore him. Face reality girl. He's just another guy with a girlfriend. Set your mind to whats important in your life at the moment. Let him be. Never ever let someone else to set your happiness. You decide and set your own happiness. So, never mind with him. Try ignoring him and pretending that nothing ever happened and that you are not at all effected by him..... do this, and trust me girl, he'll start to acknowledge you after a while. maybe it starts off with a smile or a nudge. If he is that hard headed, leave him. Bare this in mind, loosing one means gaining more in the future so why at all worry and bring yourself down just because of one man. I always believe that if he/she is menat to be with you, it'll happen....naturally. so, follow the flow. Move along with the wind. If it takes you away from him, guess, thats best for you and him. If he doesnt wish 2 b a friend, so be. Maybe things are better off that way for the both of you. All de best. Hope this helps. There's someone that will appreciate you better.
2007-01-22 00:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes, you gotta know what you think you want, and hope that you want it as much as you think. It sounds like you've got a good grasp of the situation and what you want out of it, which is the ideal place to start. Now, the next step is simply to address him about remaining friends as well as professionals, and that you like to know that he doesn't feel as awkward as you about how it was previously, earnestly but with a little inexperience. And, I'm sure it will all be cool, even if he isn't at least you were, well, professional.
2007-01-22 08:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by boombabybob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is talk to him. No more letters, texts, etc. A good old fashion sit down. Friendships are hard to come by so don't lose this one over foolishness. You know he has a gf so why didyou even open this door up. Your right also while at work keep it professional, if he doesn't want to talk then it's his lose and you have to try and move on.
2007-01-22 08:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he does seem to be a bit of a jerk for what he did with you and your feelings. i think you should just talk to him and put an end to it. it's just very childish of him to ignore you. you two are grown ups, you two can handle the situation better than that.
since he hasn't replied yet, i really think you should just look for him and talk to him. you could ask him why he didn't reply, or maybe just say it's silly of you two to be just ignoring each other and you two should treat one another as professionals. i reckon you can also say you miss talking to him.. tell him you would like his friendship back, if he doesn't want that, you shouldn't want it either. as for your feelings, try to move on. he's probably not good enough for you anyways. you deserve better.
it's complicated, but you'll be alright.
good luck :)
2007-01-22 08:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by in love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel I had a guy I really liked and he had a gf and messed with my emotions so I cut him loose. I wouldnt stand for a man that would cheat in the 1st place I want a truthful man so find one that would be right for you. You dont need a man that is a player find a good one ya know. You were right in what you did by leaving him alone you dont need that so keep going girl.
2007-01-22 08:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Baby_ Frizell 09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything you can do. He has to let it go. Unless he wants to change the situation I don't think there is much you can do. Be positive and patient....this time might be what you need to get other him.
2007-01-22 08:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mickey22_jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on -- if you see him just a brief hello and really...move on..there was nothing there but your own attraction to him...he wanted a quick one-nighter..didn't get it so now he ignores you. Get on with your life gurl
2007-01-22 08:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is more what do you want to do? Do you want to get back with him or not? What does your heart tell you? Can you get in touch with your honest feelings about him? I think you should ask yourself these questions and listen to your heart and then act accordingly. What do you think?
2007-01-22 08:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should try 2 make it up 2 him and tell him u really would like ur friendship back and u could tell him u can remain just friends
2007-01-22 08:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by shawnsgirl91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. Don't tempt him to cheat on his girlfriend because that is horrible!
2007-01-22 08:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by uabsupercow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋