ok so i am 5'2 hour glass figure, brunette, green eyes, ok looking but i am so insecure about my whole body image, i find it almost impossible to accept compliments, how can i get over this???
2007-01-21 23:31:09 · 25 answers · asked by Fallen Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you micklips!
2007-01-21 23:55:55 · update #1
I think you find it hard to accept compliments because you don't want to appear like you agree with them, because that feels to you like YOU'RE saying 'Oh yes, my hair IS nice and that would sound smug and arrogant.
The way to get over this, I have found, is to practise saying thank you. If someone compliments you on your hair for example, try not to say, things like 'Oh, it's a mess, I need to get it cut' etc. This is the kind of thing people with low self esteem usually do when offered compliments.
The next time someone says something nice to you, say thanks and leave it at that. Remember they are paying you a compliment and they really WANT you to accept it. Once you have done this a few times, you'll see it actually feels ok to do it!
Hope this helps, best wishes.
2007-01-21 23:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just learn to say 'Thank you' You can have a quick think about what the person said but it is better for you and less painful for the person giving the compliment just to accept it, smile and say thanks. It doesn't matter if you agree with them, what is the point of talking yourself down to other people? Or even yourself for that matter, it gets you nowhere but further into having a poor self image. If you are getting compliments then it is highly likely that other people don't share your poor outlook on your body and image.
2007-01-22 07:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some charity work or something else worthwhile. You'll realise that worrying about the size of your bum/thighs/tummy is insignificant. Appreciate what you've got, you've got all your arms and legs etc and can feed, wash and go to the toilet yourself can't you? If someone gives you a compliment, smile and say thank you - after all they gave you that compliment for a reason. And chill out, nobody likes a body image obsessed, neurotic female. Very unattractive...
2007-01-22 07:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common insecurity. Just this morning I had my usual shuddering encounter with the mirror.
Smile and say thank you, just like you'd do if your doddering Aunt Mildred gave you a Christmas present that was age-inappropriate and cheap. You don't have to believe the comment, but accept it graciously.
Maybe you should think about those who would cheerfully trade for what you have. It might make you appreciate your outer self more.
Realize that your body isn't you. It's just what carts you around. The essence of you is that cauliflower-lookin' thing in your noggin.
2007-01-22 07:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you find it hard to accept compliments because you feel that people are paying you the complement to take advantage of you. It's something you can't really change unless you're willing to go to a psychiatrist to dig deep and find out how this came about. I know someone who was drop dead gorgeous and still kept finding ridiculous imperfections with herself. No matter what I said I couldn't change her mind and she's considering cosmetic surgery :(
2007-01-22 07:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by General_Payne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how can the whole world be wrong and me right.....if everyone is telling you one thing and you disagree then maybe you should just accept what they are saying.
You sound very insecure about your body/figure.....maybe therapy to find out where it lies and what to do to overcome it may be a start...
Good luck
2007-01-22 07:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand how you feel, but like most people have said the polite thing is to say thank you, and just think to yourself why they have said this and focus on the good things as obviously people notice. Just comfortable and confident within yourself and except you for who you are xx
2007-01-22 08:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have low self esteem. It probably stems from when you were a child and being put down by someone. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder so let them behold. Let them see what they want to see and if they see a beautiful girl, then by all means say "Thank you".
2007-01-22 07:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to build up your confidence most of what you said was negative when you should be positive about yourself Eg "Ok looking " Not so positive you should have said good looking
Dont think your being big headed by saying this your just building your confidence up also try telling yourself your beautiful everyday This is a good confident booster.
Also try listerning to this song Video by India Arie
It helps me when i feel crap
2007-01-22 07:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is easy if ou do exactly like i say...
ASAP find a guy who you are friendly with and you know quite well. Tell him to repeat these words: ________(your name) you are very attractive and beautiful. You know his deep down inside. I am telling you this right now that you are very pretty in and out.
2007-01-22 07:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋