My gf and i broke up 3 weeks ago..i know i was the problem.. i had this crush three years ago and i never thought that she would be a threat 2 our relationship..she had the qualities opposite to my gf, in fact she was ms.perfect 4 me..she's demure, silent and mysterious..
I tried to divert my feelings for her but the feelings remained..she also shows care for me everytime we're txtng or chatting..she's my schoolmate..when i said this to my ex gf,she still wants to luv me..but i dont feel happy anymore with her..this is the hardest decision in my life so far..it's choosing between my happiness or her happiness,and Ms. Perfect or Ms. Martr..
Please help..any answers will be deeply appreciated..thanks..
2007-01-21 23:20:52 · 5 answers · asked by angelvein 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one more thing, I think I'm in love with this girl..i never meant to have this feeling for her..i didn't expect that this will happen to me..three years of constant feelings for this person isn't just a crush..
2007-01-21 23:33:50 · update #1
Honestly, the one you call Ms. Perfect- I think you may be projecting onto her all the qualities you want to see. The other is your better bet.
And boy, you really put your foot into the trap on this one. If you had Ms. Martyr, and were happy, why did you look around?
Maybe you are not ready to be serious.
2007-01-21 23:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your feelings man. Tell your gf it's not working out anymore, you're not in love with her and you want to move on. But don't do it because you have a "Crush" on someone else, do it because you really feel this way. What if this "Crush" wasn't around? Would you still feel the same way about your gf? Do what makes you happy. You only go around once in this life.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 23:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You showed some maturity and responsibility (even if it does not feel and seem like it now) for your age. I know how difficult this can be for you, but you are right for thinking about it and its consequences.
Feelings are funny... and reasoning confuses everthing if you are unclear. But, always have faith in your instincts.
You are besoted with this crush... and no longer feels for your ex-gf.
i feel that you should be honest with yourself, and your decision should reflect honesty. IN your heart, you know you have decided, but you just want it to be re-affirmed... be strong, and go with your own decision. You have the right to choose hapiness for yourself. Good luck *hugs*
2007-01-21 23:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Meela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats yr feeling towards yr gf since the beginnig til now? how did she bacame yr gf then? and now you just want to desert her just like that? how would you feel if she did this to you.you can recreate the happiness and remember the gd times you had before ms perfect came or you can leave her if you want-time will heal and she will met new ppl but just to remind you what goes around comes around. listen to your heart
2007-01-21 23:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by istina jap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never pays to hang on if your feelings have disappeared.
2007-01-21 23:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋