Have you ever thought you were in love but then realised that you were in love with the idea of love, instead of being in love with someone??? But, you still feel like you have lost something when you realised you have not loved but the idea. Does and will the emptiness go away?
2007-01-21 22:59:08 · 5 answers · asked by Meela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I thought that I was in love with the first guy that I slept with. He was much older than me and had a girlfriend and children, and kept telling me that he was going to leave his girlfriend to be with me because he cared so much for me. I thought that I was in love, but over time I started to realize that I really wasn't. I was in love with the idea of an older, more mature man wanting to spend time with me -- despite the fact that most of the time was spent naked. When we ended things, I felt very alone because this guy had been a huge part of my life. I experienced something huge with him. But as time progressed, I realized that it was all for the best ... and become comfortable being by myself again.
The difference between true love and the idea of love is that I don't think the pain from losing true love would ever go away. When I met the man who is now my husband, I knew that what I was experiencing was true love ... and how much different it was from the situation I'd been in earlier. And if I ever lost my husband, I don't think that my heart would ever heal.
2007-01-21 23:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been married twice and both times thought I was in love, when it was very apparent that I was not. I was not in love with the idea of getting married, I really thought I loved both men while I was dating them, but now I have met the love of my life I finally understand what love is.
2007-01-21 23:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the emptiness doesn't go away, i still love my ex even though he has moved on!!
good luck
Kelse
2007-01-21 23:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kelse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i hav ein love with 2boys but i can not know who i really love
2007-01-21 23:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by beauty girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that is a dumb question !
2007-01-21 23:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋