I've been back home for a year and a half. At first it was to help my parents, and now i have some bills that i'm trying to catch up on. should I feel like a loser for staying somewhere that i am comfortable and happy? I seem to be in no hurry to leave, is that bad? I'm afraid people think down on me.
2007-01-21 22:51:35 · 20 answers · asked by cutegirlin_tn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think down on you for getting along so well with your parents that you can still live with them? That you cared enough about their problems that you'd move back in to help them? You've proved you can move out if you wanted to. Now you're showing everyone that you can move back... not everyone can. Hold your chin up (while getting your bills back under control) and take pride in knowing you did what you could to help your parents when they needed it. Your home situation is just that... yours. You'll know it's time to move back out when it feels right to YOU.
2007-01-21 23:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by HunterGreen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god!! I can't believe some of these CRUEL answers people are giving to such a simple and heartfelt question-some of you people should take a lesson in SENSITIVITY!!!!
As for your question, no, you shouldn't feel like you're a loser: Go out and enjoy life as much as you can. I don't know the whole situation involved with your helping your parents, and perhaps you incurred some financial obligations in doing so. That is something that has to be considered. But do as much as you can for yourself and everything else should eventually fall into place. I'm speaking from experience here, as I am doing the same for my mother who is ill at the moment and I'm trying to get on with my life as much as I can. To answer your final question there no, I don't think down on you - you done what any caring child would have and now you have to do what is best for you.
For the rest of you that maybe didn't THINK about what was asked here and have to be such IDIOTS. . .LOLOLOLOLOL!
2007-01-22 00:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Keith P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly you cant push him into living with you if he's no longer waiting. in actuality whether he could love you, curiously such as you have better thoughts for him than he has for you. especially situations thats a turn off for adult males, i've got been informed because of the fact i used to be like that. stay aside for some months and don't point out it to him. additionally attempt to avert fights. instruct to him which you're worth of being taken to the subsequent step with him by skill of moving in jointly. For now however, do no longer push him because of the fact he will face as much as and it may desire to end in a chop up.
2016-11-26 01:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by pfeifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy you can stand to live with your parents, specifically at any age. It really doesn't paint a pretty picture from the outside though. You may want to consider getting your own place if you really do care what other people think about you. No offense, but anything doesn't look good at that point.
2007-01-21 22:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by nukem_thebomb 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what people think. I hope that you're helping financially and not being a mooch !!!! You should be paying your portions of the utilities, rent (mortgage) etc. If you're not paying anything; you're be classified as a MOOCH!
You also need to set goals for yourself to MOVE out eventually. Say a goal of 6 months to save and get a place of your own. I'm sure you want privacy etc. You know you're folks might want their privacy too!
2007-01-21 23:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their nothing wrong in staying at home,First it now cost so much to live on your on,My wife an i have 6 kids of our own,an they range,from 27 down to 14,Also 2 of my sons wifes are here,with their kids,,,,,Alll i can say is this,it a cold world,an to now live on your own,you need 2 jobs,...Dont worried of what other think,..an too... your mom an dad i sure enjoy haveing you home
2007-01-21 23:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am exactly in the same situation as you, so I can relate.
I got married for the 1st time at 30, & divorced at 36 with 2 kids.
My ex basically had control of everything, & left me with squat.
Even though... she made more than me, told me that she had NO feelings for our son at 13 months, & even tried suicide.
NOW, I am trying to rebuild.
Things take time, God will make it right in the end.
People have their opinions, they always will..... they are free to give out.
When you die, just do like me... die buried face down.....
so they can all kiss your a$$ goodbye.... the hypocrites they are.
2007-01-21 23:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should feel like a loser. Yes, it is not only bad but juvenile to want to remain and yes, people WILL think down on you. Wanting to stay at home is definitely a pyschological problem that indicates immaturity. You need to get out now, or you may never get out. (If my daughters even THINK about moving back in for more than a week or 2, just KILL me now). I don't want to be raising any 30 year old children.
We had some small birds nest in a slightly opened storm window this spring. We all enjoyed watching the birds raise their babies. We were even lucky enough to watch them learn to fly. This winter, 2 of those babies have continually come back to the nest. They force themselves back in there and wait. They have obviously had enough of foraging for themselves in winter, and I guess they think that their parents will come back and feed them if they just show up at the right time. Guess what? They don't. These birds are being forced to be adults. I can't believe that your "mommy and daddy" aren't doing the same to you. They aren't doing you a favour. Get out and grow up.
I'm getting some thumbs down...obviously there are a few other losers out there. I guess this is hitting just too close to home for them.
2007-01-21 22:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Dont be silly Its cool to live with ur parents at any age, i hate when people go on about how they hate to be seen with there parents. Your parents are the people who brought you into the world so you shouldnt feel ashamed about them. You will regret it when they have passed away.
2007-01-21 23:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kirk Hammett 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are not afraid to do it then you shouldn't be afraid of what people will think. If you feel like you need to hide from what people say, then maybe you should move on.
2007-01-21 23:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋