I have two good mates and 1 is a guy? Can you have guys as bridesmaids? obviously i wouldnt put him in a dress But... Ive never heard of a male doing it?
2007-01-21 22:22:28 · 31 answers · asked by ?Gems? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes he is actualy gay... lol
2007-01-21 22:28:32 · update #1
These days anything goes and is possible---If you want your guy friend as your brides mate---then do it. He can wear a suit with the coordinated color scheme of your wedding.
When the Bridesmaid or Maid of Honor is a man.
What's a bride to do if her best friend is a man, and she really wants him to be a special part of the wedding party? If your best bud is a guy and you really want him to be an attendant, then by all means. This new role is perfectly acceptable is done tastefully. His role will be slightly different than that of one of the girls, but allow him to feel comfortable with his duties.
In traditional portrait poses, the men will all be on the grooms side, be sure to inform the photographer that he is one of the brides attendants.
Suggestions for the Man of Honor
Run errands and address invitations
Usually wears the same attire as the groomsmen, but may have a different boutonniere, tie or vest.
Walks down the aisle with an unattended guest of honor, the brides grandmother, relative or special friend.
Should not attend all female showers or fittings of the bridal gowns.
Dances with the other attendants during the first dance.
Additional tips for the bridesmaids
2007-01-21 23:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding do what you want to.This is 2007 after-all there are no real set rules anymore for a wedding other then you need 2 people to have the wedding take place.Also in answer to your question No I have never heard of anyone having a male for a bridesmaid,maybe your the first in which case you can go in Rigley Believe IT or NOT...
2007-01-22 06:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others, make him an usher, best man or ring bearer. He might not like the implications of being asked to be a bridesmaid.
Alternatively you could just ask him how he would feel about it. Tell him he's your friend, not your partners, and as such would like him to be part of your day. The best man and ushers are traditionally the grooms mates, so how does he feel about being a bridesmaid/bridesmate?
2007-01-22 06:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put him with the groom's men and your other girlfriend can be a bridesmaid. U can still put him as your bridesman and he can be with the bridesmaid and explain to everyone why he was a bridesman.It will mean alot to him since he is your good mate and he will know how important he is to u and what he means to u too.
2007-01-22 06:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married soon and having my best friend stand with me, he is the best possible bridesmate and has been a great help with the wedding arrangements. This isn't a new idea, 20 years ago I was at a wedding where the best man was a woman who looked stunning in a top hat and tails. The important thing is that everyone is comfortable with their role on the day. Talk to him and see what he thinks.
2007-01-23 06:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason why not, you could co-ordinate his suit with your bridesmaid dress. It's your wedding, and you should do things the way you want, there is no such thing as following tradition anymore, it's more like anything goes these days. I think it is a fantastic idea, I would steal it and use it myself if I had any good male friends.
2007-01-22 07:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely he should stand up with you.
Instead of a bridesmaid/groomsman titles you would just call all the people in your wedding attendants. Brides Attendants and Grooms Attendants (how you would word it in your program)
He would wear a tuxedo to match with your husbands attendants or if you want he can wear the same tux and match your bridesmaid dress color with his vest and tie.
PS Who cares if he is gay? What a weird tidbit.
2007-01-22 08:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have many girlfriends who can be my bridesmaid so I asked my close friends who are mostly guys to be my bridesmaid on my upcoming wedding in July.
The point is to me, bridesmaids and Maid of honour should be a real good friends of mine. As long as you're comfortable, you're most welcome to do almost everything on your wedding day. It's you day, it's your choice.
2007-01-22 07:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by mscotton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of it but you could start a new trend. He could escort your bridesmaid down the aisle behind you. I don't see why it wouldn't work, some people now have females giving them away. My sister gave my mum away. Good luck on your big day.
2007-01-22 06:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be fine to have him as a bridemaid. He would wear a tux/nice suit and stand with the bridesmaids. Its your wedding, do whatever you feel is right. good luck and congrats!
2007-01-22 08:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋