We broke up at the end of last year and I just don't seem to be able to move on. I think about him all the time. What shall I do? How do I move on?
2007-01-21 22:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by Rachel J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love someone really strongly and deeply, what's worst to deal with is this expectation that we should be able to move on in a blink of an eye, as if it had been nothing at all. I think it's important that we accept our feelings for what they are. Instead of trying to violently thrust that person out of our system, I mean instead of trying so hard to force ourselves to let go, I think we need to allow ourselves to still feel love for this person, and all other feelings (sadness, grief, anger, disappointment, gratitude...) that we have. Because forcing ourselves to let go just builds up resistance against letting go, whereas allowing makes us relax and frees some energy with which we are able to focus on new things. And then slowly, with time, those new things make up more and more of our lives and, though that past part of our lives is still missing, that hole takes up less and less room in our lives, matters less and less, until we are able to look at it with a peaceful feeling as something beautiful that once was and has made us a richer person and that we can keep in our hearts and that gives us a good foundation on which we build our (new) lives.
2007-01-21 22:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is simple. Take a deep breathe, view the scenery around you, open your mind, and think of the multitudes of ways it could be worse. Then think about how it actually is, and take in a wholesome sigh of relief. Don't let thoughts and memories of the past daunt your every day schedule. And trust me, nobody wants to hear about how lonely you are or how bad your life is. Now is the time to take strides in shaping your future relationships. Think about what you did and didn't like about your previous relationship and make a list of what you want in the next one. Start playing the field and dip your toes in the water. You have to see what's out there and available. Being shy and hesitant is not an option. Go out, have fun, and meet people, you never know what you may find.
2007-01-21 22:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by emma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when the other person doesn't care about you then why should you? Even you should not suffer? Forget that bleady bastard and move on and find someone else maybe another boyfriend who loves you rather than going with someone whom you love and move on, There is no point in regretting and if the other person has left your life then it is for your betterment only, Because what ever happens in life happens for good only.
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2007-01-21 22:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bold & Beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing, you will move on but you are in mourning now which is natural. Remember you life was OK before he came into and it will be OK with out him, but it will take time for you to believe this. Try and keep busy as it will keep your mind on other things, and one day it will hit you you are not thinking about him at all. Go into chat room or try on-line dating (not to meet anyone for a serious thing) but to flirt and chat to remind you what a wonderful person you are and that you will find someone else who will love you as you should be.
2007-01-21 22:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Shamrock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, don't feel bad...I had the same issue a couple years ago...he broke up with me after all the rumors that he was cheating and lying blehind my back and i was really into him..hopefully your break-up wasn't that bad...i missed him so much and hid how i felt...i felt so used and come to think of it, one of his buds i'm buds with told me that he's glad we broke up now b/c all he wanted was sex (which never gave him nor ever had) and he would've dumped me after that and told everyone...i eventually felt better by relaxing and thinking about what we had and asking myself was it really worth it? did HE deserve me?...by talking it over and just hanging out on a girls night out (mall, movies, ect) i felt a lot better and the weird thing was he wanted another chance (nope!!!)..i know my story seems kind of irrelevant, but i'm just saying 1)get out more and talk about it 2) depending on the situation and how close yall were, stay friends, maybe things will respark (but don't get all pressed over it..not to be negetive or mean...but don't be so obvious or focus on it too much) 3) well, i told you my worst break up b/c when you look at somebody else's situation, you realize that maybe i can get over it (always helps)
2007-01-21 22:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by music ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just move on. Find someone new. Get over it. It is hard sometimes but it is possible to do.
2007-01-21 22:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl how sad but you know what im also at the same situation i also think of him every minute of my life and until now i still love him... what just i do is that i tried to make my self busy in my studies... and hang out with may friends.. its imposile to move on but we have because maybe theres some one who much beter for us... boys sre realy annoying!!!!!! they think they're cute really are not!!!!!!! i hate boys!!!!!!!
2007-01-21 22:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by nadih_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see if he still has those feelings for you but otherwise try moving on but it maybe hard if you still always think about him
2007-01-21 22:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by kissablelipsxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just punish yourself when you think about him. You eventually forget about him.
2007-01-21 22:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by with The Vicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, see someone else, if that doesnt work, travel somewhere else and start fresh.
2007-01-21 22:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by desertma88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋