MY HUSBAND QUIT DRINKING, AND SMOKING. GREAT FOR ME, A DANG SITE CHEAPER TOO!! NOW THAT'S THE ONLY THING HE THINKS ABOUT--THE ONLY THING HE TALKS ABOUT--WONT WATCH ANY OF THE SAME T.V. SHOWS. THERE'S MORE, BUT I CANT EVEN STAND TO HEAR MYSELF REPEAT ANY OF IT! I AM IN NO WAY AGAINST GOD OR THE BIBLE, BUT WHERE IS THE BALANCE? AND WHY SUCH A SHARP TURN????
2007-01-21 21:45:18 · 5 answers · asked by becsgsheps 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
After accepting Christ, Christians often feel a sense of awe and excitement because, honestly, it's like a dark veil has been lifted - you've passed from darkness into light, out of bondage into freedom. (That's the best way I know to describe it.) You can't imagine the joy that comes from forgiveness and a restored relationship with God. Don't worry, your husband is not "off-balance." It sounds like he's changing his behavior because he now wants to do what is pleasing to God. But, it is only through God's power that we are able to make such drastic changes. Do you think your husband could have made all these changes on his own strenghth?
There is no reason to fear any of these changes. They are for the better, aren't they? He should also become a better husband because the Bible is clear on how husbands are to treat their wives - and it most certainly is not like slaves like some presume because of their misunderstanding of scripture.
Woman is God's gift to man. As a gift from God, your husband should cherish and honor you and nourish the relationship (Ephesians 5:28-29). Ephesians 5:25 says, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it." Christ loved and sacrificed Himself for the church. So, your husband should love you the same way and sacrifice his needs for yours.
As long as he holds to sound, Biblical teaching, your husband's relationship with God will be a good thing!
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Voodoid, I'm a dudette, not a dude. :-) And BOO! - Now, give me all your candy! Muhahahaha!
Marcus, does have a point. You want to make sure your husband, in his enthusiasm, doesn't rush to join a church that labels themselves Christians but disregards the basic tenets of the Christian faith, such as: the doctrine of the Trinity, the deity of Jesus, Salvation through faith by grace, not through works. Two that come to mind are Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses. Now, I'm not saying there aren't some nice and sincere people in these groups. They are very passionate about their beliefs, but nonetheless, they teach erroneous doctrine.
2007-01-21 22:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your description sounds like he has accepted the light but from a cult which requires behaviors that make the accept er a persecutor by dint of revelation. The Tenants or rules are designed to desensitize the individual, that is, take ones free will away and give it to the leaders of that cult. Obviously your in a very dangerous position if you think no one should give up their will. The individual who suggested counseling wasn't far off, but such rarely works if the counseled sees nothing wrong in being desensitized. The real light requires only Baptism and acceptance of Jesus as ones leader, nothing else because Jesus was human and learned our plight. If you love your husband get involved with a church that teaches Gods grace so that you can have biblical ammunition to defeat his cults behaviors. Just remember, we don't have to be compliant to every man made rule, we have to be compliant to Gods love which makes life better than it was and fills us with love. If the cults rules don't serve this purpose then it must be avoided.
2007-01-22 14:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, what's worse, a drunk or a zealot? Sounds like he went and got himself "saved". The good news is that he'll probably mellow out a bit when the emotional high of his conversion wears off. The bad news is that when he does mellow out he may need a drink. Good luck.
2007-01-22 05:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get into counseling. This is not the same man you married.
That reverentreflections dude scares the bejeezus outta me.
2007-01-22 06:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask your husband. maybe he got all things wrong.
2007-01-22 05:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋