Alright the true story is here. My girl friend had a baby 5 months back and on the 4th month we started having sex. Now she is saying she does nt want sex because it hurts her scars that she developed from the stiches. I like sex very much but dont want to cheat because i respect her very much. What will you do if you find yourself in such circumstances? Give me advice please.
2007-01-21 21:26:58 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The scars should not hurt by now, might be you are too rough.
If she is really in pain she should see her doctor.
Me and the missus went slowly after the twins were born, I think I gave her a month with out sex then the kids gave us another month, but it was uncomfortable at first, but it got better faster.
She might need time and patience, but there may be psychological reasons also.
You guys need to talk calmly about how to proceed.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 21:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Putting this in my own perspective, as a girl, some aren't into oral. Really. Maybe they'll take it but not give it, or vise versa. She could be a lazy sort of girl, which I find annoying. If she's always been the kind to just rag doll and lay there doing nothing while you kiss her then that'd explain everything else. Just lazy, boring. Some girls also don't like tongue, that's not a bad thing at all. Unless you guys used tongue at one point then she was just like, "Noooo." She could be feeling uncomfortable, so maybe you could talk to her. Maybe she wasn't okay with it happening too soon, she's hurting, not feeling well, or she could be getting bored. That's why sex early in a relationship isn't good.
2016-05-24 15:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, can you spell DOCTOR?? The doctor can remedy the situation. Cheating? What kind of man are you? How can you think of such a thing. lay out a few bucks and get a professional to fix up this problem.
2007-01-21 21:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
U lucky she even slept with u so soon after giving birth. I stand under correction but doesn't having sex so soon have an effect on her breast milk??(because of the release of hormones during sex??)
anyway, relax so long, or masturbate( if u cant hold out) but if u can-the orgasm u could have and ur girlfriend once u start having sex again can be explosive.
2007-01-21 21:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says that it hurts her scars from were the stiches is then you need to tell her that she needs to go back and have that checked cause thats not good. but in your case dont cheat on her cause you'll in up regreating it later. if you love her you'll put your man ego behide you and use your hand or make a compurmise w/ her. eithier do anal or oral both of them are fun. there are so many ways you can pleasure each other, it doesn't just have to be in the most common area of a women ( virgina). just don't rush her into anything and don't get mad at her for it cause you don't know how she feels until you are out in a postion like women are.
2007-01-21 21:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Give it time brother. She will heal up and be ready to ride you like seabiscut it no time. If you go out and cheat, it will haunt you for the rest of ur life brother. Just rent some dirty movies at the local movie store. Go spend some time with that new kid or urs and before you know it the time will come and you will be doin it like they do on the discovery chanel again.
2007-01-21 21:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol are u my husband, same here i had 3rd degree cut during labor and im in the 5th month now and not healed yet...my husband is so understanding and supporting to me.
catch her when she is in a good mood and try let her make u feel better if u know what i mean....
whatever u do never cheat on her unless u want this relation to end...give her time she will come around and make sure that she appreciates what ur going thru and planing to makin it up to u whn she is healed
2007-01-21 21:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ozza 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's more to life than sexual pleasure. I do understand that men are so into that thing however, try putting urself in the position of ur partner. what's she's going through is not easy, im sure. just give her what she wants during this time in her life. im sure not forever will be like this. just understand her situation. dont ever find another partner. if will cause u far worst thatn resisting your sexual urges
2007-01-21 21:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by amanuensis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Theres a good chance that she is not feeling very sexy at the moment. May you could get her a gym membership as a present and when she starts getting back in shape she will feel sexier and her libido will increase. In the meantime, get yourself some porn and shake hands with beef!
2007-01-21 21:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Scott T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is having problems she needs to see a doctor. In 4 months she should be healed up.
2007-01-21 21:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋